I have a very dear friend whom actually belongs to a Stander’s ministry. We became friends and I introduced her to RMI, she never really did any of the lessons because I think she never really “bought” into the Ministry as she still clung to the principles of the standers ministry. During the holiday season, she told me that due to a family member not agreeing with her stand on covenant marriage she was not invited to attend Christmas lunch with them.
A miracle occurred whereby her FH invited her to Christmas lunch at their home, although he had always been hostile towards her for breaking up their marriage. I was elated because our stories were so similar and I was praying for her restoration also. After Christmas day I messaged her only to find that she was in fact not invited and after hearing her story where she was in his company at a couple of church events whereby she attempted to speak to him and also gave him a lecture.
I then realised that she had violated the principle of not pursuing and winning without a word. To my utter horror, she had jeopardised her own restoration, as he had told her previously that if she attempted to pursue him he would go back to breaking all contact. My heart broke and I sat thinking about the situation and knew I had to do something, as I could feel the Holy Spirit speaking to me to comfort her.
I spoke to her about the RMI principles again and how we are not to pursue our husbands but that they were the ones that needed to do the chasing. I told her to purchase the RYM book and that she would learn all that she needed in it. Only to find that she had already purchased the book but that it was packed away somewhere!!!
Ladies our men do not owe us anything. And all we owe anyone else is to love them. As Jesus did. No amount of pleading will get your husband to take you back or bring him back. Only God can and will and only if and when you start obeying. Do not waste years of believing for restoration with one simple act of weariness. Let’s run the race to win. Let God do His best work through us and for us.
1 Peter 3:4New International Reader’s Version (NIRV)
4 Instead, your beauty comes from inside you. It is the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. Beauty like this doesn’t fade away. God places great value on it.
Psalm 27:14 NIRV “Wait for the Lord.
Be strong and don’t lose hope. Wait for the Lord.