It is amazing how re-reading something can reveal things never seen before. Today, while re-reading the Living Lesson Week 30 “Countenance Fallen”, I came across this paragraph and my heart JUMPED:
"Many of us may have missed really “seeing” or noticing when our husbands lost the love in their hearts—when someone may have pointed out the dripping faucet of our contentiousness. Or maybe we did notice their frustration was reflected in their countenance, but did nothing about it, but instead, dug in our contentious heels. However, this “look” of frustration and discontentedness is what I believe the adulteress woman is looking for, in order to pounce and the allure her victim to the pit the man has no idea he’s about to fall into."
I remember when my FH's face and actions toward me changed. I listened to friends and MDs around me, who convinced me that he was "depressed" and needed counseling, which made me fearful (having just lost a best friend's brother to suicide) and pushed me to push my EH more (the thing he most disliked about me--my pushiness.) My expression of my concern for his depression led to my FH being fearful because he has had relatives commit suicide. I think this did two things--it convinced him that he NEEDED to get away from me (because he believed I was the cause of all his troubles and bad feelings) and it gave him the countenance that made the predatory OW pounce.
Do not make the same mistake I made!
Take everything to HIM! Hold your words of concern from your EH and take them instead to your HH! He knows all, sees all and has ALL the power to change circumstances in an instant.
It is the little things that matter--the ROOT of attitudes and small actions. If we do not speak to our HH daily and ask Him to guide our every word and action, little things sneak in...things that do not seem to matter much, but they do!
Seek Him throughout each and every day...ask Him to guide EVERY word and action. Realize that YOU often do not need "to do" anything!
Oh, Heavenly Love, you have blessed me in uncountable ways! I have failed to wait for you, uncountable times. Thank you for helping me to see this. Now, guide me and teach me how to wait and give me peace and joy and CALMNESS!
My Love, You are ALL and you love beyond our ability to even understand. Help me see what I need to see, hear what I need to hear and then guide my actions and words. Change my heart and mind to match your desires!
Isaiah 26: 3-4 Those of steadfast mind you keep in peace—because they trust in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for in the Lord God you have an everlasting rock
Steadfast trust in the LORD grants peace and JOY
Dear Bride, you too can have JOY and PEACE--no matter what your circumstances now and in the future. Trust in God at all times. Turn to Him with EVERY concern. WAIT on Him to guide you!