My husband told me he wanted a divorce about 2 weeks ago on and that he was seeing someone else. I was in so much pain. The first thing I did was tell my closest friend and a family member. These women were my biggest support, but they both said to do the same thing, divorce him. After several days of pain then came anger and I planned on filing for divorce on the beginning of the following month, but I heard the spirit of God tell me not to, and to be honest outside of the hurt and embarrassment I really didn't want to.
So I begin searching the web, first I bought a book that was not spiritually based but had principles similar to Erin's. Then I found another book that was Christian but basically said browbeat your husband into submission and give him an ultimatum. I bought “How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage” and begin reading it and praying fervently. Through my studies I learned that faith, is really praying and asking without a shadow of a doubt that what you are asking will be fulfilled and I determined to do just that.
The battle was fierce the enemy begins to attack my thoughts like never before. I could always hear God's voice since I was a child but suddenly there were so many voices I wasn't sure what I was hearing or if I was even in my right mind. But I had heard the whisper of God from the day my husband told me that he wanted a divorce that he was going to come back and God was going to restore my marriage.
Knowing my husband, I'll admit at first I doubted. I found the restore website and somehow ended up on the restored marriage testimonies which gave me hope and solidified my decision to pray for the restoration of my marriage. I pulled back like Erin stated and spent the beginning of each day reading it and the scriptures and I'd end each night reading and praying, normally around 2 am when I would get off work. The next day I literally spent all night in spiritual warfare, I read Erin's book, study scripture in my bible and prayed prayers I found online. There was one deliverance prayer, in particular, I found on facebook that I prayed. I'd pray, fall asleep in the middle of praying, wake back up find my place and start praying again until I finally conked out for the night. I woke up the next morning face down on the floor where I had been praying.
I studied Erin's book, prayed, and went about my daily routine. Finally a couple of hours later I saw there was a text message from my husband stating that considering everything I had told him, because one of the first things I did was ask God and his forgiveness for my part in the demise of the marriage, as things came up I'd call or text him and apologize as God also revealed the pain I caused him, he had decided to give our marriage a second try and that he would call me later to discuss it. Well, that didn't happen, he never called. Two days later I went into battle again praying from my soul. The next day I called him, thank God he didn't answer because I was being disobedient. When he called back I started to give our daughter the phone and he asked me how I was doing and from there we began to talk. He told me he wanted to give our marriage another chance and things have been going good since. Although I have a million questions I want to ask about the OW, God has not released me to do so and has told me my husband is going to tell me everything in due time, so I am being obedient on that.
I am still reading Erin's book and praying every day. I am also seeking God to help me be the best woman He wants me to be, as well as for myself and my husband. To all the women going through this, I want you to know that God is a restorer. Have faith. Be obedient and follow the voice of God as he leads you. If he did it for me he definitely can and will do it for you. Your faith and obedience is the key.
“The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful. Malachi 2:16
Matthew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 19:8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
~ Neta in Illinois
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