“I Think to Myself ‘I Can’t Afford This’”

Dear Brides, reading this Chapter 1 “The Poverty Mentality Defined” was almost as much as a revelation from when I read the Chapter: My First Love, in the Restore Your Marriage book. Without realizing it I was slandering the name of my First Love!

My ex-husband is experiencing some financial difficulties so some of the things he used to help out with now has become my responsibility. And instead of just trusting that my dear Heavenly Husband will provide as He has done so many times before, I turn over every cent before I spend it. I understand that I should still be wise with what He has given me, but I need to trust that He will give me what I need so that I can look and feel like His bride all the time:):):)

Reading this Chapter 1 “The Poverty Mentality Defined” for the first time I started laughing at His timing. I read this chapter 2 days after visiting the store and wanting to buy hair dye for myself, but thinking I should leave it and rather take something else. I always feel so guilty about spending money on myself.

I now understand that my Heavenly Husband does not want this for me and that I should trust that He will provide what I need.

This chapter has been such a revelation, although I would not tell anyone about my financial situation, I would think to myself “I can’t afford this”, “I don’t have the money for this” etc. Instead of just talking to Him and asking Him to provide for me.

Also reading the testimony from Erin brought tears to my eyes. Here in South Africa, you can just drive down the street to see people sitting on the street corners begging for something to eat. It is heartbreaking and looking at them I realize how my Heavenly Husband provides for me every day. I am still able to live in a 3-bedroom house despite being divorced. My children never go to bed cold or hungry and then He provides so much for me in other ways and then I go and say: “I don’t have money for this or I can’t afford it”

I have a swimming pool that is empty because it needs painting. And every time I would say, I will have to do it next time because I cannot afford the paint at the moment. Wow, how silly of me. I am now asking my Heavenly Husband to provide for me and my children so when the summer comes we will be able to use our swimming pool!!

Pray with me as we trust our Bridegroom to provide for our needs as Brides: Oh, my dear Love. Thank You for sending this lesson at just the right time. Although I thought I was trusting you with my finances, this chapter made me see that this is not the case. My words and thoughts do not reflect the trust I have in You. Please forgive me for this. I love You so much and I want to tell everyone how amazing Husband you are. Help me that my words and actions can reflect just that. Thank You. Amen.

Dear Brides, please know that your Heavenly Husband wants to provide for your every need and that all you need to do is trust Him, really trust Him. He knows your heart like He does mine so fretting and worrying about finances, just shows that we are not trusting Him. I am making a commitment today and I hope that you do the same, that we will not live the Poverty Mentality Life, but that we will live the Abundant Life He has planned for each of us!

This is the first Chapter and it already felt like a bucket of cold water has been dumped over my face:) So, I am very excited to see what the rest of the book has in store for me. I certainly know that I will learn a lot!

Yvonne in South Africa
RMI African Director
Managing Operations Director

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