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| Country: |
| USA |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| In a support group on Facebook I have not completed the book I’m still reading it |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| We both come from traumatic childhoods know each other since we’re 13 together since age 17 for 28 years we have had a lot of traumas after too lost their house in hurricane Sandy had to relocate out of state right when we finished renovating after being displaced for a grueling seven years of that and we also have a son who had very difficult medical issues the past three years and it seems my husband fell into a midlife crisis. We were getting ready to move to Florida, where he abandoned us instead left me in an Airbnb with our two children retreated back to New York where we originally from he met an alcoholic woman in July He has been struggling with alcohol the past three years as well and now has had no contact with us not even for Christmas. He is unrecognizable to me and I don’t know what to do. He changed his phone number even I only have his email but he won’t respond and he won’t send any support money now. I’ve been homeschooling the past four years and taking care of our medically fragile son he knows this , but has simply walked away from it all and is with this woman committing adultery openly now . He also abandoned all friends and all coworkers in this, though he is still working. He has walked away from all faith and we miss him so much. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| Dear Lord My husband‘s abandonment completely blindsided me this past July I have fallen into a deep depression, but in it I also grew closer to You God. My husband has stepped away from his faith completely. I think he’s an atheist at this point in this, I understand that he must have deep deep pain within to be doing this and has grown apart from you and that we both need to find our back to you Lord please speak to us and fill us, and our children with the power of the Holy Spirit daily I do feel I have unconditional love for him, but sometimes I wonder from the advice of others if I’m just holding onto a toxic relationship after all He has done and continue to do in our life, I don’t know if you want me to stand. I go back-and-forth and Praying to you and tuning in to knowing what’s your will, and without leaning on my own understanding . Going deeper into my faith and relationship with You I feel as though my husband had to be removed so You can work with him separately while You work within me dear Lord but some of the things my husband is doing are just so hurtful and unfathomable so my faith waivers, I do know through you Dear God all things are possible And I just need hope and faith to hold onto that We didn’t live a lie for 28 years. I am repenting for my sins. I know that I am not perfect in this marriage, though I never in 1 million years would cheat I pray that you help tame my anger and resentment and accept the things I can not change because know everything you allow is for my good. I want to know how to be a better godly wife, for when my husband returns, and I would love for him to return as a man of God, so that we could raise our children and break the family patterns that we promised one another to break free from for our children I want to know that I can still be a living testimony in that through you dear Lord, please redeem and restore our marriage. Please help me discern that it’s your will to stand. Please help us to put our relationship with You first, help me to put down the idolatry of my marriage and help my husband and I to know a healthy love and life with you Lord at the forefront. You know the mountains in our marriage and I pray that you move them and I pray our children get to bear witness to our unconditional love as a family in Christ. I also pray to You Lord to bring a prayer partner into my life in this. I pray all these things unto You, Amen |
| In order for us to minister more effectively to you, please check what concerns apply to you: |
| Depressed. Fallen into adultery, need help. |
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Dear Precious sister, l want to touch on something important that you said and bring confirmation that yes God takes away from us, in my case it was my spouse as well. In order to work separately within us. What is more important than anything else right now is to focus on your relationship with the Lord and not listen to anyone else but HIM.
It bothered me so much like you what my husband was doing with the other woman but focusing on the Lord and my relationship with Him, doing the courses online learning so much truth helped!!
What helped me was to take advantage of the free courses offered online at https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/. I worked through each course and l am not the same person anymore. He has restored so any areas of my life and provided for all my needs as l learned more and more truth.
Eph 3:20
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,
https://biblehub.com/ephesians/3-20.htm
Thank you for your encouragement I have purchased the books and plan on going through the courses
Dear, I do understand some of what you are going through. It is heartbreaking and devastating to go through this. Confronting your husband or pursuing him will only make things worse and your husband will try to get away from you and build a “hate-wall”. I have been there and done everything wrong to push my husband further away and into the arms of the OW.
I would like to encourage you to let go (https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/). This is not letting go like the world teaches, but letting your situation go into the Lord’s hands while you focus on your relationship with Him, making Him your First Love (https://hopeatlast.com/c3/day-2-chapter-2-first-love/). I would also like to encourage you to read the following lesson on dealing with adultery: (https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d16-dealing-with-adultery/).
This is a verse that I have found helpful this week:
“Be very careful about what you think. Your thoughts run your life. Don’t use your mouth to tell lies. Don’t ever say things that are not true. Keep your eyes focused on what is right. Keep looking straight ahead to what is good. Be careful what you do. Always do what is right. Do not do anything unless it is right. Stay away from evil.” Pr4:23-30 ICB
Start the courses, journal and focus on your relationship with the Lord and allow Him to heal you first. This will help you when your marriage is restored. It’s been much harder since my husband has returned to stay focused and keep the Lord first. (https://loveatlast.org/hhm/).
Thank you for your words and especially for sharing the article on adultery it is VERY helpful
Dear Bride, I remember trying to make sense of it all that has happened. But the Lord has asked us to trust Him instead. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;” Proverbs 3:5
The Lord will fight for you. “You will not have to fight this battle. Take up your positions; stand firm and see the deliverance the LORD will give you…” 2 Chronicles 20:17
I agree with what the other brides said – this is the time to focus on your relationship with the Lord. “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29
Thank you
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