He led me to not argue but to be still

Β "Therefore the LORDΒ longsΒ to beΒ gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you For the LORD is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him" I3018

Hello beautiful brides!

A few days ago, at work, I was traveling to the job site in my bosses car when she brought up a question that took me by surprise.

Especially since a few days ago she asked if I was still married, even though I do have a ring on. I answered yes, and left it at that.

But she asked me what kind of men I like! I replied gently and kindly "I am not interested in any kind of man right now, I am taking time to heal and work on myself" (which I am very grateful the Lord reminded me of the lesson ("Moving On") I did on this exact situation that happened to Erin and she shared that everyone loves it when we want to work on ourselves!)

Well, a day or two later, my boss was driving and she brought up her brother, and how wonderful he was and how he needed to find a good godly woman etc etc to which I quietly listened and my heart was steady. No mental gymnastics trying to work out a explanation for her, nope just listening to all she said. She talked about this man for quite a long time. I could tell she loved and honored her brother with her words, and the Lord even softened my heart towards this man, only because he has had such a hard time.
When she finally got done talking, I didn't even have to say anything at all! The Lord gave me so much peace and confidence that I didn't have to explain myself, defend any position or anything like I once would have.

I used to feel like I had to justify, explain and convince people of what I was doing and why. But I just felt a love and peace for her and her brother.

She doesn't know anything about my situation because the Lord has taught me to value discretion and to honor my spouse by not sharing anything at all and also to honor my Beloved Lord by not sharing anything. He's been teaching me that the world doesn't need to know every trial I face. Which has been freeing me to share so many cool things with my boss, because she's a believer as well! We have had some really great conversations and my Beloved has been showing me what He's called me to work here with her, and it's simply to allow His peace, His love, His presence to be evident.
I don't make much doing this job, and I am in this job simply because my spouse asked me to find something part time, and staying at this job doesn't make much sense to me, but I will trust Him to lead me to another if and when He wants, not me.

What a load off of my shoulders!! Anyways, very excited about all He's doing and pray you all have a beautifully blessed day!

6 thoughts on “He led me to not argue but to be still”

  1. I love your growth since you have come here. I am so excited to get to see first hand the transformations He is doing in your life. It brings me joy. It’s so encouraging to hear how you found peace in that situation. I also learned the lesson of telling others “I’m working on myself and not looking for any man right now”

  2. Oh wow Rasa reading this post l can hear so much maturity and a really good understanding of the the lessons you have been reading AND you are putting them into practice!! l found myself in this exact same situations and l used to try to explain myself too much which caused those l told about my situation to speak about it and ask questions which in turn caused me more pain.. the minute l kept quiet and simply shared like you did about focusing on myself healing and moving on with my life its exactly what ppl liked hearing and so they stopped discussion about my me and marriage and i could rather speak about the Lord πŸ™ŒπŸΌ that’s a really good lesson β™₯️

    I am so happy for you and the peace you have found.. your obedience to Him brings you peace knowing that you can lean not on your understanding because HE will make your paths straight πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

  3. Rasa, I really liked the answer you gave. And He is the one who gives you that peace, and that understanding to face situations.
    When we remain silent, we close a door so that the enemy does not attack us through the comments of others. May He continue to give you wonderful days.

  4. Thank you for your testimony Rasa, I am also often inclined to give an extensive explanation immediately when someone asks something of me. He still helps me, in different situations, to learn to be silent and just listen. While I listen I ask Him to give me my words if necessary. It is then wonderful to experience how I ultimately do not have to do anything.

  5. Beautiful testimony Rasa, I agree with Atarah, when reading you one can see that you have matured and that you are applying what He is teaching you. Peace is a wonderful gift that we appreciate more when we have gone through so many nights of pain and without sleep. I am very happy about the transformation that the Lord is making in you, and how your spirit can feel softer and gentler, which is precious in His eyes.

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