Custody Loss; There is Hope

I've been reading more and more about brides losing custody of the children, or who is currently in the midst's of a custody trail. It is becoming easier and easier for dads to take the children away from their mothers, even at a young age. A lot of the time it is because the mother is faced with financial difficulties during or after divorce, that was one of the reasons stated in my situation. It is devastating to say the least.

When I was faced with custody loss, I could understand how other mothers in the same situation sometimes take their children and run away, adding to the devastation and hurting the children even more in the process. If there is another woman involved, it can add to devastation, this was what happened to me. I even heard of mothers who committed suicide after losing their children.

Before my custody loss, my Beloved Heavenly Husband prepared me with the following lesson "Chapter 12 “Your Best Protection” from the Finding the Abundant Life book. Something that really stood out to me was this part where the author shared:

"Reviewing what He’d done increased my level of trust to the point that I was able to use a few years later with my children. The first time was when my husband told my children that he was divorcing me, and then later when he introduced them to the other woman he had left me for. There is nothing you or I can do to stop this kind of exposure that we, if we had the choice, would not allow our children to go through. Honestly, if you are in my position and you have divorce papers that say that your husband has these rights by law, you need to remember that even without a written document, God gave our children to both parents (to you and their father). So what happens when things go in a direction that we had not planned for, and fear begins to set in?"

Then He placed it in my heart to translate the Facing Divorce - Again book in Afrikaans. Even though the title says "Facing Divorce", the principles found in this book can be applied to anything that comes against us and when the custody case came against me, I was able to apply the principles. Although my first instinct was to fight for my children and I made mistakes along the way, my Beloved gave me the peace and strength to go through it, and in the end I was able to agree enthusiastically when I lost custody.

But because of what I've learned, because I held on to my Husband and trusted Him and His plan, everything turned around for good.

If you are currently facing custody loss and the utter devastation that comes with it, I would like to encourage you to run to your Husband first, cry at His feet as much as you need to, spend as much time with Him and in His presence as you can, let Him comfort you, and let HIM fight for you. Appoint Him as your Your Wonderful Counselor.

There is hope, but our hope is in our Heavenly Husband with whom nothing is impossible, no matter what your situation might look like, He wants to support you and fight for you and He CAN turn your situation around for good!

If you would like to read my full testimony, please go to: RJN “My Custody Loss” Adina Jacobs