Dear precious brides, please leave some encouragement for a dear bride from UiteindelikHoop.com. She wrote an email to me (she agreed that it be posted here on Encouraging Women) - No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. L8:16
Leaving encouragement here for her will also encourage other brides that are going through the same:
I'm at a loss..
First of all, I want to say sorry that I haven't submitted a journal piece for so long, the last few weeks have been rough.
My husband wants a divorce, he wants to continue with his new life he started with her. He says, I have to consider his happiness (he has a child with her). I don't want to divorce.
It hurts so much.
Dear precious bride, first I want to encourage you that your situation is not hopeless to the Lord.
“For nothing will be impossible with God.” L3:37
I also want to encourage you to please go on with the courses, especially Course 1 that you started with and to journal, and also to read the blog posts with daily encouragement, because all of this was and is still life changing to me and it helps me to keep my focus on the Lord and not the circumstances around me and my Darling Lord has spoken to me so many times through the posts. And two of the principles that I learned from RMI is to Simply Seek God (in every situation) and He leads Me (taking the Lord’s lead in every situation), and I encourage you to also follow these principles.
Please also listen to these podcasts on Hope At Last regarding a baby with the other women, it will encourage you:
https://hopeatlast.com/?s=baby+with+the+ow
My marriage was restored even after there was a child with the other women because nothing is impossible for our wonderful Lord:
https://uiteindelikhoop.com/herstelde-huweliksgetuienis-klassiek-weer-getroud-nugter-na-15-pynlike-jare/
I am so sorry for all your hurt, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Please take your Darling Lord’s hand and focus on Him while you just move closer and closer to Him and our wonderful Lord will do the rest: https://loveatlast.org/his-bride/
Dear beautiful bride,
Put your trust in Jehovah, God holds everything in His hands, and you have to trust Him..Remember that the Lord has a future and a hope for you beyond your wildest dreams. I have had to reconcile all of these things for myself. I have come to recognize that a husband in adultery is trapped by the cords of his own sin. I stopped thinking of it as rejection. I had to learn that I can trust God no matter what the outcome is, and that He has all the best intentions for me,like a bridegroom that pulls out all the stops* for His beautiful bride. When you have a close relationship with God, He makes you feel and know you are a beautiful queen. You know He does not want calamity for you. He has a future and a hope for you, not plans to harm you. If a divorce is what your receive, trust God that He knows what He is doing. Recognize also that your husband is trapped in the cords of His own sin. Your job is to pray and fast for him that God break these things out of his life. Know that God is in control of everything. This is where the trust factor comes in. Letting go and letting the bridegroom do as He allows. We know we can trust Him. I know it’s hard to see it now, but with an impending divorce, you will learn to have faith and trust in God, you will learn more about putting into practice His guiding principles, and you will gain knowledge and understanding so that when you face trials and tribulations you will have learned to go through it. I think the most wonderful principle is to think and know, He is all I need!The idea that God knows what’s best for me and my family, for my children and myself, I can trust Him with my life. A possible divorce also teaches you to love and pray for your husband, and you learn what unconditional love looks like. Your character will begin to grow, and others will notice. For me, I really thought listening to love songs was so silly. However I have also begun to do that and, if you find the right one, a light bulb goes off, and you realize the grand love the father has for his beautiful ladies that have gone through things like this, that * I am you man, I am your husband, I am everything you need, I give you my word.! what more could a woman ask for than a bridegroom who sticks to his word! We can without fear, trust in the Almighty dear bride, for everything! He is our sole provider! He is enamored with us and He has all the love we need! Trust God, He will not steer you into calamity! He knows what is best for you! Pray for your husband and leave the rest to God!
Bible quotes:
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper (well being, happiness, goodness,safety,) and not for calamity, to give you a Future and a Hope.
Proverbs 23:28- For the HARLOT I’d a deep pit, and an adulterous woman a narrow well, she lurks as a ROBBER, and increases the faithless among men.”
Isaiah 61:8
For I the Lord love justice,
I hate robbery and wrong doing,
I will faithfully reward my people for their suffering,
And make an everlasting covenant with them
Quotes Book Facing Divorce, RMI
Divorce will help you to:
Have faith
Learn Bible Principles
Obtain knowledge and understanding
You will be:
A walking testimony of His love and Power, when facing fears, trials and tribulations*
God bless you dear bride Jesus loves you.
Have faith in God
Dear Bride, I can imagine how painful that is as many of us have also been thru these moments of loss. My husband led me to share the “The freedom of Letting Go” with you.
https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/
It is the Lord who took away EH from you and He is asking you to focus on Him instead – would you obey and trust Him? “You have taken from me friend and neighbor— darkness is my closest friend.” (Psalm 88:18)
I encourage you to let the Lord fight the battle for you. “You will not have to fight this battle. Take up your positions; stand firm and see the deliverance the LORD will give you, Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Go out to face them tomorrow, and the LORD will be with you.’ (2 Chronicles 20:17)
Well said Gio! Nice and short too.
“For those of you who are IOU MTA to get your Marriage Minister 💔 update your profile and include your BNN surname + your IOU level as you see many of the other ministers have already done. Then can you help spread the word and comment underneath and paste what Yvonne and I have been encouraging unsuccessfully?”
You’re a darling Gio 🤗
My Husband and I will do the same. It’s not about pointing 👉🏻 the way but leading the way, right?
Dear Bride, I can identify with what you are going through since I have gone through both trials, I know all the pain you feel and that feeling of abandonment that hurts the deepest part of our hearts.
Having gone through the same thing gives me the certainty of telling you that although you think that this is a valley of death and destruction, in reality you will find that even in the midst of these circumstances you can have life in abundance.
First of all, I understand when you say you don’t want to get divorced, but there is no path more painful and difficult than clinging to and interfering in each other’s path. Our Beloved does not want that: He wants to bless us abundantly and one of the wonders I experienced is seeing that He wants me to give him the place to fight for me.
I encourage you with all my heart to also study the chapters https://uiteindelikhoop.com/vind-die-oorvloedige-lewe/h3/
I know you feel that no one thinks about your pain, but your Beloved does, and He wants to work, please read the chapter on https://uiteindelikhoop.com/vind-die-oorvloedige-lewe/h6/ and the course: https://loveatlast.org/hhm/ I encourage you to study the https://hopeatlast.com/c3/facing-divorce-course/ course, at all times and repeatedly, because you need to be washed in the truth of His Word. Another part that my Beloved reminds me is that you must obey even if it is difficult and it hurts, the joy and peace we experience when we obey no matter what is indescribable.
I know that today you don’t see hope, but there is, He is longing for you to let go of everything, please study the freedom of letting go, so that you can focus on Him and find the healing your heart and wounded life need.
Finally, the most important thing is that only He can be your guide, the source of your wisdom. He is the only one who knows your circumstances and the only one who can give you a route to follow. He is the only one who can show you the purpose in your life so it is useless to look for help from someone else; remember this question that He has for you: Is there anything impossible for God?
Well said Perla. I almost thought you were mistaken when you said not to “interfere” but it’s a translation difference and means not to “stand in the way” of those pursuing wickedness.
“For those of you who are IOU MTA or MTI or MRA to get your Marriage Minister 💔 update your profile and include your BNN surname + your IOU level as you see many of the other ministers have already done. Then can you help spread the word and comment underneath and paste what Yvonne and I have been encouraging unsuccessfully?”
hahaha, languages are not my strong point, so that leads me to stay under his guidance so as not to write something that is not understood correctly, fortunately He showed him my intention. On the other hand, thank you for the comment, I had asked my Beloved to guide me in this to understand it in the correct way, so I appreciate that He used you to answer my question, thank you🙌🏻.
So dear ladies, I encourage you to review your profiles and take into account this important and necessary indication: “For those of you who are IOU MTA or MTI or MRA to get your Marriage Minister 💔 update your profile and include your BNN surname + your IOU level as you see many of the other ministers have already done.”
First be sure you discover the power of the course Yvonne began discussing here https://encouragingwomen.org/fda-running-over/
Next is the truth. Whatever sinful happiness any of us experiences —especially when it’s hurting the innocent—is fleeting temporary and won’t last but end painfully. God says it I believe it. Do you?
Therefore get out of the way of those who pursue wickedness the Lord told us this is the way and part of what you’ll learn directly FROM HIM by journaling the FDA course and also Course 1. It’s impossible to explain all the supporting truths and why assigning a full course with a specific lesson is the only way to minister effectively and with compassion because of the outcome from the decision to invest the time now or pay for the lack of knowledge.
My Husband reminded me of another very important thing. If you remain married you must submit to your husband no matter what (let your mind go there). It’s God’s protection if He allows it to go through.
And then again by not submitting to a divorce you are already being rebellious to your authority and ultimately to the Lord. But don’t take my word for it check and stay GOD’S WORD.
Hello dear bride! I guess almost everything has already been said and I hope you can feel our warm hug 🤗 ❤️ Believe, much of us went through the same situation and now we can share and testimony that it is possible to Respond Enthusiastically when your husband asks or say anything about divorce – Yep! I know it sounds impossible, but we are all here telling you: my dear, there is freedom in letting go🙌
Also I feel I needed to share that this course: “Facing Divorce” sounded scarry for me – I didn’t want even think about it – going through divorce – so that’s why I ran away so many times, avoiding to start it, but when I gave up, I can tell you, my darling, this was a life changing for me.
So please, I would love to encourage you, please go to Yvonne’s post here: https://encouragingwomen.org/fda-running-over/ and be very blessed❣️
“Therefore, behold, I will allure her, bring her into the wilderness, and speak kindly to her” (Hos. 2:14).
After Gio, we had a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride, we will reply to her email, and so we have CLOSED this session. Thank you!!
For those of you, like Gio, who have had many opportunities to minister, please give the other MMs time to comment and then confirm, and reply beneath their MM Comment. “Every fact is to be confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” 2 Corinthians 13:1