"Never again will you be called “The Forsaken City” or “The Desolate Land.” Your new name will be “The City of God’s Delight” and “The Bride of God,” for the LORD delights in you and will claim you as his bride." I62:4
Dear Bride, maybe you are just starting your Journey, or you have been on it for a while. I know that when we are rejected it hurts deeply, it is like a sword that penetrates our heart, and not only by your spouse, it can be by a child, by a family member, by a friend. And then instead of letting go, we do the opposite, we cling more to that person, and we only end up more alone, and more hurt.
Oh, you can be like me, that in my marriage I pursued my spouse, with jealousy, with insecurities, with anger, with control and that in the end, is a stone that grows bigger and only ends up crushing us.
So, whatever way we pursue, it is not what will bring us peace, only by letting go, forgiving, and staying away, can we heal and let others heal their own wounds.
Today I invite you to pursue only Our Beloved Best Friend, to run and tell Him everything that happens to you, what you feel, to pursue His Promises, His Word. To spend your time and your space each day more with Him who becomes your Universe.
There, is where we find Love, that does not leave us, that fills us with peace, that makes us complete and not needy. Beloved Bride, we have the Best Friend, the One who understands you, because He Himself was also rejected, the one who feels and knows how much love you need.
Look for Him with all your heart, and pursue Him, so much that you do not feel needy again.
Thank you, dear Liza, letting go and forgiveness was what healed me and changed my journey to an Abundant Life Journey.
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Thank you for sharing this encouragement precious Liza.
When I got hurt by my spouse and my son, I did cling more to them and I tried to fix everything in my strength, just to actually make it worse.
It felt like you were writing my story, because I did this: I pursued my spouse, with jealousy, with insecurities, with anger, with control and that in the end, is a stone that grows bigger and only ends up crushing us.
But yes perfusing our Beloved Best Ever Friend, everything changes and after all these years I have found Someone that truly understands me.
Dear Liza, I recognize myself in your story, I have had so much trouble learning to let go of my FH. But I have received something so beautiful in return: A Heavenly Man! Now I notice that I also have to learn to let go of my children. They are getting older and are going their own way more and need me less as a mother. I know that this is also a process that I have to go through with Him, I am learning to get even closer to Him to see Him even more as the only Man who makes me truly happy and fills the voids in my heart with His love
Thank you so much for your words and Scripture. Things have been getting harder recently with FH and my children, feeling that I’m parenting alone and I’ve also been struggling with a bit of loneliness these holidays. I knew I just needed to spend more time with Him and surrender over and over again to my Beloved. After reading this I hear my Beloved telling me to let go again, pursue Him more and stop facilitating other relationships. He is showing me letting go of a rope. A rope that has a knot at the very end of it. My hand is at the knot and I open up my hand and I let it go. Not reluctantly, I just don’t want it anymore. I only want Him.
My dear Liza, thank you for this reminder. I just want to add one thing: when we completely let go regarding our husbands, we no longer see the AF as an enemy. I would like to invite those who are still struggling to read The Other Victim.