♕Today's Promise: "Then I will make up to you for the years that the swarming locust has eaten, the creeping locust, the stripping locust and the gnawing locust, My great army which I sent among you.” J225
Noemi, how did your Restoration Journey actually begin?
My restoration journey began a few years ago. The Lord began to work in me and showing me where I had to change. I tried, but it was not a genuine change. Two years after that is where the real process began. I grew up in church and I accepted the Lord when I was 12 years old, so I thought I knew the Lord. Well as I got older we stropped going to church and I began to do worldly things with my friends. When I was 19 I was pregnant with my oldest, but my parents intervened and I did not marry the father of my child. A couple of years passed by and I met my husband, Durant, and we moved in together. We had a child while still being unmarried. Our relationship was rocky and fighting all the time, but we decided to get married and we did. It was not a great relationship because Durant was always flirting and talking to women on social media. There was no trust between us.
3 Years after we got married we had to move from town due to his new job. This is where our real problems began in our marriage. I found a lot of accounts Durant had and confronted him and he would deny it. I would fight all the time due to those websites and social media. I could see his love for me was not there anymore and I tried to change, but I would go back to my old ways. A year went by and I thought everything was ok but then Durant and I got into an argument and he separated from me for 3 weeks.
At that time there was another woman which I did not know about yet. It was a coworker and they started to talk on the phone and a few months later they had a an affair. He kept that hidden from me, but the Lord would showed me through dreams what Durant was doing and my Heavenly Husband would show the adultress in my dreams. By the next year the Lord was already changing me and Durant saw me changing, but he still kept his double life. The Lord was so merciful He kept Durant home and he never left.
When I found out about the other woman, I confronted him and he confessed everything and that he had ended it with her, but he still kept in touch with her days after he had ended it with her. I also did what RMI said not to do, confronted the other woman, but the Lord protected me. Durant told her he did not love her and to leave him alone. He said he saw my change and realized he made a terrible mistake. I fought with him constantly about the affair and that pushed him away and back to the other woman again. I would ask him if he still called her and would deny it.
The Lord showed me while fasting that he was still talking to her, and also through another person who knows us. I again confronted him and he told me it was not true. He did stop talking to her for a month and we got in to an argument, and he called her again and kept talking to her. They made plans without me knowing, but the Lord stopped their evil plans. They were going to see each other on Monday, but Sunday night Durant was choking in his sleep and their wicked plans were stopped.
My Heavenly Husband told me to fast that Monday and I did, then I found out about the plans they made in Durant’s email. I again confronted him which I did not know at the time is something that was not helpful. This is when he confessed everything and I kept arguing and then he separated from me.
This is where I called unto the Lord and he gave me the road map, the book How God Can and Will restore Your Marriage through an audio on YouTube, the Lord answered my plea within the hour.
How did God change your situation, Noemi, as you sought Him wholeheartedly?
My Heavenly Husband really changed me. I ordered the book and I read it and I repented from all of my sins, contentious ways, and idolatry. I would fast and seek the Lord with all my heart. Durant blocked me from looking at the phone records, but I still trusted the Lord. He also locked his phone, but my trust was in the Lord. I started to apply all the principles in Erin's book and Durant was seeing the change in me.
We were separated for 3 months, but in those months the Lord healed me, I began taking the courses as well and sought the Lord until Durant was no longer in my heart like he used to be. I was an idol worshiper, Durant was my idol and the Lord was jealous of that. So he did remove friend and lover from me.
What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), did the Lord teach you during this trial, Noemi?
The principles I learned from God's Word was that I had to have Him first in my heart, to tithe to my storehouse, and that my husband could not live with contentious woman. He showed me His promises and that He was going to make the change in Durant. Through RMI I learned that the Lord is the one who changes the heart. The Lord also taught me patience, He healed me and gave me love for Durant. I fasted more and more and started to tithe and stay very close my Heavenly Husband. I learned that He goes with me everywhere and that He is with me always.
What were the most difficult times that God helped you through, Noemi?
The most difficult time the Lord helped me through was when my mother passed away, this is where I started to argue with Durant more because of the pain I felt. The first time he separated from me the Lord kept him home and changed his heart to end the separation. He kept me safe while Durant was with the other woman and after I found out about it the Lord kept Durant home. God was there protecting me and fighting on my behalf. Even after I found out God kept our family together.
Noemi, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?
The turning point of my restoration was when my I started to tithe first to my local church, which I left. This is where I saw Durant turning back to me! I still suspected he was communicating with the other woman, but the Lord would remind me of His promises. To this day I cannot see the phone records, but I trust the Lord that he is no longer talking to her. Durant took me out for my birthday and the Lord put it in his heart to buy me a gold necklace. I started to see his heart turn back to me and I waited to hear the words, "we are no longer separated." He also told me he did not love me, but I knew that was a lie from hell. I stood by what my Heavenly Husband said and still says. I was gentle and quiet and only sought the Lord for everything, I looked where I could agree with Durant and just be agreeable with him. He started to hug me more and seek my company.
Tell us HOW it happened, Noemi? Did Durant just walk in the front door? Noemi, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?
He never left the home, I glorify the Lord for that. There were times where he wanted to pack, but the Lord in his mercy did not allow it. My Heavenly Husband kept us together through the whole ordeal. In April he and I were talking in the car on our way home from going out with our family, and I started to cry in the car. He asked me why was I crying and I told him because I wish that we would be together and not separated. He said in a kind voice, we are not separated. It never felt like I was separated from you. I thanked the Lord in my heart that the separation ended. He still had his phone locked and did not give me his password, I asked the Lord to change that in our marriage, I begged the Lord to remove that password from his phone. I am ashamed to say I asked Durant when was he going to remove it and he told me somewhat angry that it was when he wanted and not when I wanted. Then the Lord reminded me it was not when he wanted, but when my Heavenly Husband wanted to remove that password.
Well two weeks went by and the Lord did it, I told Durant that it was ok for him to keep his phone locked, but that I was not sure if he was still talking to that woman. He looked me in the eyes and told me that it was over, that he told her he wanted to be with me and our family. He ended everything with her. He gave me his password and then left his phone on the dresser and me alone with it. I did not look through it because the Lord showed me that he was no longer talking to her by giving me his password. Not only did he gave me his password, but he closed his social media and he told me he wanted to show me how much he loves me with his actions.
To be honest I could not tell at first. The Lord would give me dreams of us being restored, but I did not see any changes in Durant immediately. During my separation he would go out with his coworkers after work more than once, this is were I had to trust the Lord that he was telling me the truth. When I started to suspect that I was close to being restored was when Durant bought me the necklace and began to tell me that he loved me. He started to make my plate during dinner and would do the things he used to do before his heart was removed from me. At our oldest daughter Quinceanera, which was in April he called me beautiful more than once, during our picture event he looked lovingly in my eye and this is where I was more hopeful than before.
So no at first I did not suspect anything because he was cold towards me, but then the Lord started to give me hope every single day. He now calls me at work, when he gets to work and coming home. We were also not intimate during that time, but the Lord brought back our intimacy. It is still a process, but I have faith that my Heavenly Husband is healing us in that area. He tells me that he has fun with me and loves me, he holds my hand in public and hugs me every day. I can only thank my Heavenly Husband for all of this, I am teary typing this because I know that this testimony that I have would have not been written without Him. My Heavenly Husband is the love of my life and the first in my heart. Durant still has me locked from seeing the call logs, but my trust is in my Heavenly Husband and not Durant.
Would you recommend any of our resources in particular that helped you, Noemi?
Yes I recommend RMI and the courses. The testimonies gave me hope where I had none. The book "How God Can And Will Restore Your Marriage" and "The Wise Woman Work Book" help me to see where I need to change and my sins. That kept me looking at what was in front of me and not the log in Durant’s eye. My Heavenly Husband also help me find an e-partner and we still are prayer partners. Durant has yet to come to the Lord so I am waiting on my Heavenly Husband to bring my Durant to Him
Would you be interested in helping encourage other women, Noemi?
Yes, of course. I bought books for my sister and other woman to help them in their marriage.
Either way, Noemi, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?
I encourage you today to never believe the lies the enemy tells you. The battle is in the mind and you must bring every thought captive to the Lord. Be still when you have to be, fast and seek the Lord with all your heart. He will answer your prayers and will transform you and your family. I ask you to please be gentle and kind to your husband and children. Let the Lord fill you with His love so you can give it to them. Also spend your time with the Lord and fall in love with Him, you will see your earthly husband’s heart return to you. Give your tithes to the Lord as well so the enemy won't devour your blessings. Help other women in need and pray for others, the Lord is faithful and will give you the desires of your heart. The condition is that you my dear beloved sister is that you seek first His face and His kingdom. It is not easy and it may seem impossible, but with God everything is possible. Do not loose hope and keep the faith, you too will be typing your restoration soon.
