RESTORED Marriage Testimony: “I Was the Woman at the Well”

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Maeve, how did your restoration actually begin?

Before I start my testimony I'd like to share a little bit more about my journey. First I want to praise my Beloved HH who is the best Lover and who has healed me of every fear. Because He was so patient and loving with me at all times I am not the frightened broken woman who began this journey.

I always read the testimonies and believed that one day I would read mine. To think that this day has actually arrived is such a miracle!!

In my relationship I was the opposite of the woman He created me to be. I was just like everyone who He calls to come here. I was contentious, manipulative, fragile, spiteful, hypocritical and unfaithful at various times in our life together ..... I was rotten to the core!!

In the last months before we broke up we were fighting a lot! And the reasons were always so silly in comparison to other crises that we had previously. I always told him that someday we would separate and then it really happened. The mouth spoke what the heart was full of. The push to separate as always was mine and when I tried to go back, my partner did not want me anymore. I loved to manipulate him, to pretend that I wanted to separate just to see him crawling and begging at my feet. He always struggled to keep our family together, as I was constantly pulling it down, but this time he got tired and that's when I woke up in utter despair.

I spent the following weeks begging him to reconcile, just once more. He agreed to stay, but only for a few days, but that's when he asked to be transferred so that he could work in another state. So we didn't see each other for more than 6 months. God really got my attention removing “lover and friend far from me.” I was truly a “loathing” to him.

So I stayed behind living with my 2 daughters from a previous relationship in a state where I didn't know anyone. Yes, it was painful because we were the sort of couple who always did everything together. Being so ashamed at what I'd done, I just shared my situation with my sister, to help me in prayer, but kept everything else to myself.

How did God change your situation, Maeve, as you sought Him wholeheartedly? 

I felt insecure wondering if God was going to restore my relationship because I was not legally married, although there was a hint of hope in my heart. I looked for various testimonies of a restored relationship from someone who wasn't married but found nothing. I confess that I was frustrated. Whenever I was working during the day my situation flashed through my mind but when I got home, I was consumed with fear and all I could do was cry. 

During the first 2 months I suffered a lot. I was not in the mood for trying anything and thought a lot of nonsense, worthless ways to fix my life and relationship. Then one day on Facebook I saw someone posting something about RMI, I just knew it was the Lord who directed me to your site. I immediately devoured the website, submitted the questionnaire and downloaded the book, How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage on my cell phone, because I had no money to buy the book. Reading just the first chapter I saw that my situation was not lost, not in the least hopeless. Oh my heart was filled with joy because I felt God was talking to me.

There was a day that I came home from work and after crying a lot I asked my HH to fill the void in my heart, saying I didn't want to cry for my ex-partner anymore. From that day on I started to feel a sense of peace and I only remembered him at night but instead of crying I felt joy because I had the best Husband.

I started taking courses and feeding on His Word. I was overjoyed when I read "Married to my Son's Father" confirming that God did have a plan for women like me. I was the woman at the well, not married to the man I had been living with, John 4:4-42.

I stuck the verses I wanted to sow into my heart and on my closet door to read every night and every morning:

"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will grant your heart's desires." Psalm 37:4

"Seek first the kingdom of God and His justice and all things will be added to you". Matthew 6:33

On my journey I fell and got up several times, but it was the unconditional love of my HH who never gave up on me that kept me moving forward.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Maeve, did the Lord teach you during this trial? 

I started to apply the teachings of letting go (it was not easy), winning without words, having a meek and quiet spirit and also fasting (which I thought was impossible for me).

I had just reconciled with the Lord after 10 years of being away, so I read His Word, prayed and sought His presence more than anything.

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through, Maeve?

The most difficult times were when I noticed him emotionally moving away from me more and more. We went months without speaking until one Saturday afternoon he called me.

Maeve, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?  

When I handed my relationship over to God and asked Him to do His will and not mine. Then the second part was being my HH’s Bride.

Tell us HOW it happened, Maeve? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Maeve, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored? 

After 4 months he suddenly appeared out of nowhere. He was on my doorstep at 1 in the morning. He spent a few days with us and then returned again to his mother's home and later to the new city he'd been transferred to (later I found out he asked for the transfer to move back near me).

The days he stayed at our home, we slept together but there was no intimacy. I kept reminding myself not to displease my HH and when he'd attempted anything, I lovingly refused but didn't explain why.

At the end of that month he said he would come home because he was now unemployed. I knew God was getting his attention. After being home for almost 3 weeks still living as friends, God turned his heart and completed the work He'd started. A new dream of mine was to be married. I never wanted to marry, most of my friends still don't think being married is the way to go, so I never married and neither had my partner. But then I learned how this was God’s plan.

The week he arrived he asked if I wanted to go with him to church and he reconciled with the Lord and even went down to the altar. That's when the pastor asked about his relationship with me and offered to marry us. We married in a simple ceremony and can't believe I'm a married woman.

Even though I am married and no longer living sinfully I am still in the process of much refinement, believing and trusting the Lord with my life and that of my family. I trust that He will continue the necessary changes in all of us. I always told the Lord that I wanted to shout to the world "as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15 and now I'm doing that too!!!

Would you recommend any of our resources in particular that helped you, Maeve?

I recommend that everyone use all the resources you offer. I used the books How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage and A Wise Woman. I took most of your courses and am still taking them. My husband said he wanted to study A Wise Man.

Ministry Note: Each woman (or man) who submits a restored marriage testimony is sent a free couple's packet that includes both A Wise Woman and A Wise Man paperback books.

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women, Maeve? 

Yes

Either way, Maeve, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

Beloved bride, I want to tell you never to give up, however painful it may be, trust Him who can do all things. He is the God of the impossible and loves to give us our heart's desire when He is all we want and all we need.

When you think you don't have the strength to continue, ask Him to renew your strength and give you the wisdom needed to overcome difficulties.

"The king's heart is like a brook of flowing water in the hands of the LORD.” Proverbs 21:1

"Praise the name of God forever and ever; wisdom and power belong to him. It changes times and seasons; dethrone kings and establishes them. Give wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who know how to discern." Daniel 2:20-21.

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