RESTORED Marriage Testimony: “Message From the OW Saying… She Was Pregnant”

♕Today's Promise: “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord.” Psalm 27:4

☊ RMT PRAISE

Layla, how did your Restoration Journey actually begin?

He took my hand and lifted me up.

The problems in my marriage and in my life started when I left the One who has control over everything, the Lord.

I grew up in the house of the Lord, I was devoted to all activities, I remember that as a little girl I shut myself in my room and spent the day adoring him with all my heart. Then I met Mateo, we got married and moved in together. The first year passed and I was already dragging myself, I didn't pray anymore, I went to church but I didn't feel anything, I didn't read the Bible anymore, and when I read I didn't feel anything, that is, I totally left my first love.

The lord was already giving me signs that he wanted me back to him, several times he warned me about what was to come, but as a foolish woman I couldn't wake up in time, I was totally dry.

After 4 years of marriage and also many fights, involvement with alcohol, Mateo became unemployed, that was the breaking point! The fights intensified, he slept constantly outside the house, and almost always arrived drunk.

How did God change your situation, Layla, as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

In one of the searches I did on the internet looking for help, the Lord gave me the book (how God can and will restore your marriage). I read a few pages of the book, but I didn't absorb anything at all, I couldn't put anything into practice, my heart and mind were totally closed.

The lord knew my character, He knew that it was necessary for the furnace to get hotter for me to wake up. That's when the furnace really heated up! I got pregnant with my second daughter, I started to get angry because I saw that Mateo didn't care about the family, he didn't talk to me at all, the wall of hate had settled in my house, I argued about everything. I cried in the corners while asking God what was going on with my family, and where was the man He gave me to marry.

The bottom line was when I picked up my husband's phone (how I regret it…) I discovered a message from the OW (other woman) saying that he was supposed to go to her because she was pregnant. I felt completely hopeless, grounded, I was so desperate that I called a longtime friend, someone I thought could help me. That woman said to me the following words: “your husband is very young, you are very young, you will still have to endure a lot, men are just like that, they do not change, we have to fit in”

I didn't let those words enter my heart, because my Beloved told me nothing! Absolutely nothing is too impossible for Him. Since that day I decided to share my pain only with the One who brings the solution “the Lord”. It was on that very day that I felt the Lord carry me in His loving arms and whisper softly in my ear, “My beloved! even if the world forsakes you, the Lord will welcome you.”

I remember that the only words that came out of my mouth were “Lord give me strength, without you I won't make it, give me strength Darling. The Lord reminded me at that moment that he had already given me a weapon of war the book (how God can and will restore your marriage), which at the time I didn't appreciate it, but at that moment it was what I needed, I poured my heart in that book, I cried! Oh my beloveds! Only God knows how I cried…

I had discovered that my house had fallen due to my bad character, I grew up in the church as I wrote before, but I was always arrogant, quarrelsome, argumentative, the one who knows everything, the closest people kept away to avoid confusion, every Sunday I was at church, but I didn't cook for my husband, I didn't take care of my daughters as I should, I even took care of the house, but I murmured a lot, I was the total opposite of the woman God wanted me to be.

One of the passages in the book went something like this “Stop all the discussion now” It said that because we are hurt, we are not in a position to speak, because every word we say could be harmful to our restoration. This was the first principle I applied, I was so weak, so worn out that I decided not to say anything, not to ask for anything, not to question, that is, I only spoke to Mateo when he addressed me, it was very difficult not to ask. I wanted at all costs to know how the situation with OW was, but the Lord told me not to ask, then I started to apply the other principles, letting go was the most difficult, since my husband never left the house. I was reluctant enough to let go, the days passed, the Lord was changing my character, I felt stronger with my HH (Heavenly Husband), but still letting go still hurt a lot, every time Mateo left the house I ran to the Lord I cried until I couldn't anymore, I told the Lord that I wanted to be like the women of RMI, who found the Lord and let go of everything that hindered them.

I completely let go of social networks ah! as this brought peace to my soul, I started fasting twice a week, I don't know how many kilos I actually lost, because I didn't get to weigh myself, but I know that I was very thin, the Lord broke my heart of stone, during my fasting I told the Lord that I wanted nothing more that He was my Everything. I asked Him to completely fill the void in my heart, I told Him that nothing else mattered as long as He was there with me always.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), did the Lord teach you during this trial, Layla?

The books "God can and will restore your marriage", and also "a wise woman" were balms for my wounds, the courses I'm still taking, the praise reports, ah my sisters! may the Lord bless each of you and your families for your daily encouragement and devotion to the lives of others.

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through, Layla?

I lived through many difficult moments, but among all of them, the enemy constantly reminded me, once we were coming from work and Mateo saw OW, left me at home in a hurry and went to her, ah! My HH (Heavenly Husband) was there for me, that night I fell asleep crying but being comforted by my Dear True Love.

The other difficult moment was having to take care of my daughters, one 5 years old and the other just two weeks old, I was without strength because I was physically weak, I couldn't eat anything, I couldn't even stand up.

Layla, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?

The turning point was when I stopped all the arguing, I didn't question, I didn't ask anything, I started doing my RMI lessons, as a child my Lord taught me to take one step at a time, my Darling began to show me that to be happy I needed nothing but your presence.

One night I said a prayer to my Darling, saying that I didn't care about the future anymore, whatever happened to my family was in His control, I told Him that I could walk in the desert as long as it took, but that in this period I wanted Him to hold my hand, and not let go of me for anything.

Tell us HOW it happened, Layla? Did Mateo just walk in the front door? Layla, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

It was after this prayer that I started to see the Lord bend the heart of Mateo back to us, he never left the house, but even though he was living there it was as if he wasn't there, but when I took my eyes off him and the restoration, the Lord began to bring him back. One morning he came to me and said he talked to the OW for her to have the child since she said it was his, however I learned after a few days from him that she terminated the pregnancy by her own means since Mateo did not agreed to give the money, I prayed that God would take her whole life and forgive all her sins.

Although I wanted to, Mateo never apologized, I saw him around the house very sad and confused, but he never said a word to me, the Lord gave me maturity to know that it doesn't hurt, it wasn't me he had to ask apologies, but to the Lord.

Hallelujah! Glorified and Exalted be the name of my HH He wiped away my tears, He put a shine on my face, He took my hand and lifted me up as he did with Talita the daughter of Jairus “And taking the girl's hand, said to him, Talitha cumi; which, translated, is, Child, I say to thee, arise” (Mark 5:40).

Among all the blessings I received from the Lord, none of them compares to the fact of having known him, of having truly received him as Lord and Savior of my life, nothing compares to having him as my Husband, my Bridegroom, my Counselor, my Confidant, my Everything, yes! The Lord is everything to me.

My prayer is that the Lord help me to remain firm in your presence, I never want to be that woman who suffered and in need of your love again, I want to follow my journey until the day you come to get your church. Psalm 27:4 “One thing have I asked of the Lord, that will I seek after: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to inquire in His temple.”

Would you recommend any of our resources in particular that helped you, Layla?

All the material of this ministry is a school of learning. I recommend the books, the praise reports, the testimonies, the reading of psalms and proverbs.

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women, Layla?

Yea! I'm definitely ready to help other women, just as I was helped.

Either way, Layla, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

Dear ones, the Lord is more than capable of changing your story, in fact He only allows our journey to take its time because He has much higher purposes for us, He wants us closer to Him. No pain lasts a lifetime, he is preparing your victory, your restoration will come when you least expect it, look to him and be blessed.