RESTORED Marriage Testimony: “My Life Changed and I Stopped Crying!”

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Annie, how did your restoration actually begin?

My RESTORED Testimony should have been written several months ago, but we ended up so busy with our new life, I forgot. But today is the day, the appointed time, because I know that many women go through similar situations and I owe it to my Heavenly Husband to share the truth. I want everyone to know that they can be sure that God changes history, He resurrects what is dead, because He is God...and it is for the honor and glory of His name I tell my story.

We lived together for 23 years, without officializing our union, never legally marrying. We have 2 daughters, and we lived in our marriage completely distant from God, even though we continually were receiving blessings from God in our lives. It’s amazing that God is good to us even when we don't deserve it. We never stopped to see that He blessed us and we turned our backs on Him. We lived a sinful union full of ups and downs, betrayals, fights, arguments, and jealousy. Yes, we loved each other but without the presence of God we let the enemy act in our lives. But that all changed in October. The first great crisis hit when I discovered my earthly husband had a lover and without any wisdom, I acted out. I fought, cursed, I called the other woman, I threatened her. I continued this until he left her. In my ignorance as a stupid woman, so quarrelsome, who wanted to be in control of everything, I thought everything was resolved. 

Then, in March, our financial life was hit very badly. We had our own business and we decided to open a second store to see if things would improve financially. Pure deception. Within 40 days my earthly husband said he didn’t love me anymore, said he wanted to be single, to take care of his own life. I was blindsided. I was shocked by what I became over the years. So, I agreed, I even thought it was a good idea—after all, I was free of that boring marriage. I could do anything and everything I wanted now. Do what I hadn't done for so many years. So I was happy, making plans. 

Then, my joy turned into a nightmare, it lasted a few days, maybe 5, 7 days. I don't know for sure, but God touched me that it was not what HE wanted for my life. There was utter despair, I felt inside my heart that I was wrong, that I couldn’t lose my family, my daughters would suffer, and the pain was so great. So I told my husband that I didn’t want the separation, that it wasn’t the best choice, but at this point he had already decided he wanted out and there was no going back. I lost my ground, my footing. I realized how much I loved my husband and how much I loved my family, but by that point he was already involved in the evil that took over his life. I discovered then that he had already found a girlfriend. 

Then without any direction, I started doing everything I shouldn't have, I started chasing, calling, watching, chatting, fighting, and one thing that was worse, I put his whatsapp on my PC to spy on him. One day I read everything he wrote and what he received from messages. Oh, God, I suffered such horrors, don't ever do that, and I just sank into the deepest pain, and without the presence of God the enemy took over my life. I didn't eat, I didn't drink, I didn't sleep, I just cried, I wanted to kill myself, I wanted to become a homeless person, everything bad I thought about doing. So I lived for two months like this, sunk in the mud, destroyed, a rag, pain hitting me all over the place, but I didn't remember that God existed. Until one day God had mercy on me and in one of those fits of crying it came to my mind to look for a church and so I did. I went aimlessly to church after church. Remember that I didn't go to church, I had never once opened a Bible to read it. From then on God started to come into my life. Praise the Lord.

I started going to church, I was crying, I cried the whole service and I came back crying. And my happy husband was with the other woman, would leave early from work, did not talk to me all day, came home to sleep each night, then stayed with her at the weekend, came home late, and so the months went by. When I started going to church, soon after I met a woman, a Godsend. God put a prayer woman in my life, who started to accompany me, pray for me, pray with me, asking God to send me hope. I had none, none at all. Then one day I was browsing the internet and I found this blessed Ministry. My life changed and I stopped crying!

How did God change your situation, Annie, as you sought Him wholeheartedly? 

Reading the Book How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage I saw what I had become, what my life had become, and when the scales began to fall from the eyes, it was very painful because I discovered that I was responsible for the destruction of our family. After this is when God started to take care of all my hurts. I had never kneeled to pray, and every time I did this simple act, it was painful, because I saw my mistakes, but I was learning. God used a Wise Woman and taught me how I had to to be as a woman, wife, mother, daughter and sister.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Annie, did the Lord teach you during this trial? 

I read the RYM book twice, watched all the videos several times, read each of the lessons, and read the Bible a lot. During and through these resources, God spoke to me a lot, mainly through the Word. I let go of the church, because I’d stopped crying after He led me here. Now, I trusted Him.

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through, Annie?

There were so many difficult times, like when he said that he did not love me, that he loved other woman, that I was nothing to him, that I was only the mother of his daughters. Maybe even worse was the weekend that he came home, and saw that he had gotten dressed, put on cologne and went out with her. That night I stayed at home on my knees weeping at the Lord's feet, without even the strength to stand up, but then God held me in His hands and I felt a peace overtake me. 

And also as the months passed, God said that He would do a miracle in my life, that I had to believe but things only got worse, my husband told everyone that he was going to marry her, because as we were not married on paper, nothing prevented that he married her. At that point, he was totally blind, beside himself, he no longer remembered that he even had daughters, he was totally in the hands of the enemy. But I told God from the beginning that I was going to marry him, and each day that passed got worse. God taught me to trust but there was one phase of my journey I still needed to pass through.

Annie, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?  

In November, my husband was with the other woman almost entirely. He made it a point of saying that he did not love me, and began treating me like nothing when he was in our store. He left early, he arrived late. I always fixed him dinner, because over the months I learned to treat him well, I didn't ask, he didn't charge, he didn't care, I had his clothes that were always ready for him to wear, the house was always clean, the food was always made, and I acted as if nothing had happened. I had also moved away from all the people who could bring me information that could make me suffer. I was not going to anyone's house, much less to his family. I started living at home and that’s when I met and fell in love with my Heavenly Husband. I finally discovered my First Love. 

That’s when I was ready to face the final blow. We financially lost everything, the store closed, God closed all doors for him, and even without me seeing anything, understanding anything, God was acting on my behalf. As I said God said he would do a miracle. And when everything seemed to have no way out, God entered and I was blessed with a Lover. God honored me because my daughters never lacked anything even though we’d lost everything.

Tell us HOW it happened, Annie? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Annie, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored? 

At the end of November, out of nowhere, my husband came to me and said that he had realized that he loved me, and on the same day he returned home. Three weeks later we got married, and the next day we were baptized in water. And for the glory and glory of God we are together and living our lives together for HIM!!

Would you recommend any of our resources in particular that helped you, Annie?

I recommend to everyone I meet, the RYM book, all your videos, all your lessons, study the testimonies because these are what gave me strength. Each time I read one, I cried a lot but I said, if God did it her life He can do it in mine too. Reading the Bible is very important, so is fasting, letting go of your church and finally, the most essential thing is to surrender to God, even in the midst of so much pain, it is the only way. Lastly, find your First Love in order to heal.

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women, Annie? 

YES for sure! In the same way that I needed help, I am willing to help, to pass on my testimony, to say, “Look, have faith, God will do in your life what he did in mine!” “And Jesus answered and said to them, ‘Truly I say to you, if you have faith, and do not doubt, you shall not only do what was done...but even if you say to this mountain, “Be taken up and cast into the sea,” it shall happen’” (Matt. 21:21).

Either way, Annie, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

First, never give up on your family, don't give up on your husband, because our fight is not against the flesh, but what is behind all this. An enemy who wants to destroy families! Your family is worth surrendering to the only One who can change our history! The fight seems to have no end, it seems that the pain will consume you, but God is in control of all situations. Today I have my husband who is devoted to the church and being a spiritual leader. And my daughters, the month after we were restored, they were born again and now go to church with their dad (I remain at home and am a member of Restoration Fellowship). Then two months later my daughters were baptized. So now I can say that I and my house serve the Lord, and that the glory of the second house will be greater than that of the first, so says the Lord. Ladies, God is wonderful, I live miracles in my life every day! God is Faithful. Just be in His presence and trust. Praise be to God!!!

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