RESTORED Marriage Testimony: “Pregnant with Triplets!”

Darcey, how did your restoration actually begin?

My husband and I met each other almost 8 years ago, then married four years later. Then, after 15 months of trying, I got pregnant and, surprise I was not pregnant with one baby but 3 babies!! I was having a set of TRIPLETS! Our life immediately turned upside down! To prepare for the births, we sold our small apartment and purchased an emergency home because according to the doctors, I would never have given birth at the full 9 months so we needed to live close to the hospital so we could visit them as they grew.

In an instant, however, everything changed. Just 6 months into the pregnancy, I gave birth to 3 stillborn children.

We were all so happy to be having 3, then experienced 3 times the pain when we lost all 3 children at once.

So this is where our marriages problems started.

How did God change your situation Darcey as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

I've always known God, having come from a Christian family. Even my coming to be born myself was a miracle because my mother had been declared sterile and after 8 years of suffering, God answered her prayers and I was born. Now, she is the mother of 5 children, her last she had at the age of 51 years and her baby is perfectly healthy !! Even though my mother had a husband who was not a Christian (God for him was viewed as "cultural") her faith to one day have children was rewarded.

It was just a year after the birth of our daughter when my husband told me he no longer loved me and that he wanted a divorce. He said he had met someone else and he thought she was "the love of his life." Imagine the feelings that came over me. Me, the mother of his children, who he tells me straight in the eye something like this after all we'd come through!

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Darcey, did the Lord teach you during this trial?

It was just a year after the birth of our daughter when my husband told me he no longer loved me and that he wanted a divorce. He said he had met someone else and he thought she was "the love of his life." Imagine the feelings that came over me. Me, the mother of his children, who he tells me straight in the eye something like this after all we'd come through!

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Darcey?

Sadly, when I met my husband, rather than follow what I had seen in my mother and knew personally, I just set aside our King and my relationship with the Lord. I no longer prayed, I simply walked away and thought I could get through life by myself. Even the loss of our 3 children, which had created a gap in my relationship, still had not moved me to change. Even so, God blessed me due only because of His faithfulness, when just 3 months after our loss, I discovered I was pregnant again. Now I have a wonderful little girl.

Darcey, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?

After he told me he didn’t love me and about the other woman, I reacted with enormous anger and simply kicked him out of the house, only to find myself at the bottom of a deep pit, looking across a barren desert towards my future. That's when I cried out to God because I wanted to understand why? Why was He having me live through so much pain and tragedy? That's when I heard Him answer me. He said He had to break me because I had forgotten my first Love. He said I had neglected Him and that He is a jealous God. He said above all, He is my King and nothing and no others on this earth can compare.

I reached out to Him, with both hands. I asked forgiveness, began fasting, began praying and continued with deep repentance when He revealed another fault.

Meanwhile, my husband continued to talk about divorce and began to focus on his relationship with the other woman—going so far as to introduce her to his family while we were still married. Also while still married, he went to live with her for nearly 6 months. While at the same time, I kept this truth from His Word hidden deep in my heart. “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

I did not walk by sight, but only by faith. When it was hard, I clung to the Word of God.

Tell us HOW it happened Darcey? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Darcey, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

Then the last week of March, prompted by what I sensed He wanted me to pray, I spoke this prayer to our God, "Lord, I spent Christmas without my husband, I'm through, I declare that I will spend the Easter holidays with my husband and my daughter. Amen. "

My sisters, the miracle occurred the next month! My husband called me and left a message saying... "I broke up with the other woman and I want to cancel the divorce— if you still want me. My hope is to come home because my place is with you and our daughter and not in another home. I'm so sorry for everything that happened and also if you have nothing planned, I hope we can spend the Easter holidays together"!! I listened to his message so often, each time more excited. Not because he was coming home, but because I saw the GLORY of GOD and His faithfulness to His bride !!!

My husband has been home for nearly a month, and all three of us are so happy !!

Either way Darcey, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

During this fight, God showed me so much. I often had visions and He told me that my husband would return, The story is very long, something I could write a book about everything, to tell you all the things He did. For now, I just have to say to each of you. Encourage each of you who are fighting for your marriages. Our Father is faithful !!! if you believe in His Word, you will see its power. But above all, care about Him, never to allow anyone or anything in your life matter. GOD MUST BE NUMBER ONE!

“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

~ Benedicte in FRANCE