"But I have against you that you have abandoned your first love." R2:4
Please read these short passages quoted from How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage, Chapter 5:
"Have you left your first love? Who is your first love? Was your husband your first love?...
What happens when you put someone ahead of the Lord? What does He do to draw you back to Him? If you have put your husband ahead of the Lord, then it was the Lord who has taken your husband from you... Don’t make marriage restoration first in your life; you must make the Lord first in your life!:"
If I'm going to be honest I have to admit, not even my spouse was my first love, but the obsession to get a restored marriage became my first love. It got so bad that I didn't care how much I hurt the other woman and I say this with so much shame because she didn't deserve it at all. And I thought I had every right to hurt her so much and justify myself by saying that he was my husband first, but I was so very wrong.
Precious bride I want to encourage you please not make the same mistake I did, nothing is as important as our precious Beloved Lord, not even marriage restoration. Don't lose yourself in the process just to get a restored marriage, it's not worth it, but our precious Beloved Lord is definitely worth it, so make Him first in your life.