Therapy for perfectionism

My Husband has led me to delve a little deeper into the healing process regarding perfectionism that I could classify as a scheme or perhaps a mental strength that was born as a thought and over the years has been fortified with habits.

A perfectionist can notice any detail that is out of place, that in general can be considered a gift, but when used in the wrong way it does damage (as with any other gift). An example of this is what happened to my skin, any “imperfection” jumped out at me as the MOST terrible thing and all I wanted to do was have perfect skin while I was anguished because it is one of the feelings that accompany the perfectionist when it does not achieve perfection.

In my case, the desire for perfection arose in my childhood. On one hand, I admired how neat and tidy my father was. In general, my home and the houses of all my aunts remained impeccable, which I inherited, as something that was expected of me. I remember that the first thing I did when I got up in the morning made the bed, it had to be perfect all day, I would get angry when someone sat on my bed in my absence, I would notice when they returned and I would question who it had been 🫣everyone knew and they avoided doing it.

This perfectionism reached the extreme due to pride because I competed with myself to be better than others and that becomes like a prison that steals our joy. But my Beloved knew what tool to use to start dealing with it, and that was my EH, he is the opposite of me in terms of perfection, he is a free spirit, who cares very little about the order, and is The way in which my Celestial Husband has led me to use the gift of order and perfectionism in a balanced way, at the beginning it was very frustrating because while I was tidying up he was messing up, I cried with my Beloved and asked Him for help to manage my feelings and have that love that is patient. He helped me understand that he gave me a gift for his service, and He reminds me of two of my praise testimonies that portray part of that healing process or therapy that my Beloved has used to heal me:

1. https://elanimador.com/el-se-esta-encargando-de-aliviar-mi-carga-parte-uno/

2. https://elanimador.com/el-se-esta-encargando-de-aliviar-mi-carga-parte-dos/

God says: “Just as iron sharpens iron, a person sharpens the character of his friend” P2717

That has been my husband in this process, a tool in His hands to free me from anguish, pride, pain, and excess perfectionism and thus lead me to feel at peace, joy, and enjoyment of life. It leads me to stop chasing perfection because all He wants me to chase is Him. And it is in chasing Him that I find my greatest delight.

I thank my Beloved because now I do not feel frustrated, instead, I have learned to love my husband with patience for his disorder and likewise He has given my husband a new spirit of service at home, he helps me to keep order and more recently I hire someone to help me a few days a week with cleaning. It wasn’t something I asked for, but I know it’s Him releasing me from the burden.

~ Anastasia
Spanish LMF 🇪🇸
https://elanimador.com/