RESTORED Marriage Testimony: “The Best Day God Allowed to Happen”

♕Today's Promise: “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

Charis, how did your restoration journey actually begin?

A year after getting married, my spouse (Ian) admitted that he no longer wants us and then later on confessed of having an OW (other woman) he met at work. I was devastated. I never thought this would happen to our family. My initial response was to call my mom, which was very foolish of me. And then I ran out to my Mother-in-law's to tell them what happened. It was the worst day of my life, but I later found out it was the best day God has allowed to happen so that I can go back to Him. I did all sorts of things; I called his company to ask them to stop him and the OW to be in one workplace. I lied to Ian that it was my sister who did that. But Praise God, He stopped me from doing worse things. Feeling lost, I searched and searched the internet. I kept on praying that God will lead me to a group or a website where I can find answers. I first landed on "Standers" Ministry websites. I devoted my spare time reading and reading, but nothing seems to "feel right"... Then I stumbled upon HopeAtLast.com..... It was only then I found out it was all my fault. I broke my family, I broke Ian's heart, I stole his position in our family, I was a know-it-all, I never let Ian lead our family. I was contentious, I was all sorts of attitude a husband will never want in a wife. I was the one who pushed Ian away...

Charis, how did God change your situation as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

The biggest change was the calmness in me, I was living alone when Ian left (he works on a cruise ship). Even though I found out that the OW (other woman) followed him on the same ship, I still felt calm. God allowed all these things to change me, to draw me closer to Him. To make Him my Beloved Lord and HH (Heavenly Husband) ... The moment I allowed Him to be my Beloved Lord, I saw an image of a man in a blue tuxedo. He was there, throughout my Journey. Even though I was alone for 8 months, I felt comfort and peace knowing my Beloved will never ever leave me.

Charis, what were the most difficult times that God helped you through?

It was when the OW found out that Ian was speaking with me, during that time Ian was slowly coming back to me. I was struggling with letting go because Ian was the one approaching me... So, I knew God allowed the OW to have Ian stop contacting me. So, at around December we lost any contact at all. I fasted for months, skipping dinner. I dedicated most of my time speaking with my Beloved, reading the courses over and over again. I asked God, to change me, to soften my heart, to forgive.

Charis, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?

It is really true, the moment you fully let go of restoration, it was only then God will make a move. I was free of every burden, I didn't care about Ian anymore. I loved every waking day I get to spend with my Beloved Lord alone.

Tell us HOW it happened, Charis? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

After a month of having no contact with Ian, one day he sent me a message saying he was about to die. I found out he got COVID. Then later on he kept on contacting me again, I, on the other hand, was very casual about our conversations. A week later he told me the OW (other woman) is going home earlier than expected because she got really sick too. You know what ladies, it was one of the quiet prayers I whispered to my Beloved early in my Journey. "My Love, please remove the OW from his workplace". He answered it, but not immediately. BUT HE DID. I Praised God that day, thanked Him for remembering my request. BUT that was not the end of it, the more Ian tried to get back with me, the more the enemy worked. Little did I know God was working way more for me. A lot of things happened, Ian was struggling in letting go of the OW. I even told Ian he does not need to choose me and that I am okay. But God had other plans ... Then I remember the sin I did, calling his company. I admitted I was the one who did it. He got mad at me; I fasted for three days. And after three days I heard God say, "It is finished". I never knew what was finished then, but I knew God was about to restore my marriage. A week later, Ian told me he broke up with the OW... Since then, I never heard of anything about them again. After 8 months of being separated, Ian went home and asked me to pick him up at the airport. Upon writing this, it is already a year later... Sorry for being late in submitting my RMT. God has given me a chance to show Ian the new me. The changed me, everything I learned in the courses was hard. I kept going back to those pages whenever I struggled.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), did the Lord teach you during this trial, Charis? Would you recommend any of our resources in particular that helped you?

ALL OF THE COURSES ABOUT BEING A WISE WOMAN. Up until this day, I read them over and over again, I renew my mind.

Do you have favorite Bible verses that you would like to pass on to women reading your Testimonies? Promises that He gave you?

"In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials." 
— 1 Peter 1:6

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
— John 16:33

Either way, Charis, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

Let go of your spouse, and hold on to your Beloved Lord.