"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’" P30:20
Years ago when my husband left me for the other woman I never would have thought that I would agree with this passage in Course 2, Day 24 "Part 1: The Other Victim"...
Moving on from this vantage point, of no longer looking at the OW as evil, I’d like to take you up even higher and see things differently— understanding that the OW is a victim too.
...Because in my head I was the poor victim who was betrayed, cheated and hurt! So when I became the other woman (OW) in my ex-husband's life, on top of that, I thought I had every right to be intimate with him. I later joined a Standers Ministry who told me that I was doing nothing wrong to be intimate with my FORMER spouse. But I was suppose to listen to my Darling Lord and not them.
I was the other woman for years and when my Darling Lord led me to RMI, He opened my eyes for how wrong I was and that she was also a victim. That's when I asked the Lord for forgiveness and also asked Him to please help me to ask her to forgive me as well, but He had to make it happen if it was from Him, because I couldn't call her.
Out of the blue I received a call from her to ask me for a copy of her child's father's (who was also my children's father and then became my husband again) identity document. I knew it was our Beloved Lord who orchestrated the call, so I asked her for forgiveness and she said she forgives me and also knows it was a the Lord that wanted her to call me and today I can pray that our precious Beloved Lord truly blesses her (something I could never do before).
So precious woman I want to encourage you to sit with our Beloved Lord and ask Him to help you not to view the other woman as evil. And if you are divorced from your spouse, please don't start a relationship with your ex spouse either, it's devastating and if you've fallen into that trap like me, I want to ask you to please stop, it's not too late to stop. Our precious Beloved Lord will be the One to restore your marriage and not your own schemes, because they don't work!
Please also read the Restored Marriage Testimony of Joy: It Was Me.
Dear Janine,
I thank my Darling for bringing me here today to read your testimony. It’s exactly what I needed. I’ve been at RMI for a year now, and I’ve already learned a lot and learned a lot of behaviors. However, yesterday I was at my lowest point and hopeless. My Darling gave me peace and calm, but I still tossed and turned all night long. As I was reading this – wow – the Lord is so great. Rely on Him, on Him alone. He will also save my marriage.
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Liebe Janine,
Ich danke meinem Schatz, dass er mich heute hierher geführt hat um dein Zeugnis zu lesen. Es ist genau das was ich gebraucht habe. Ich bin jetzt seit einem Jahr bei RMI, und habe bereits viel gelernt und viele Verhaltensweisen gelernt. Gestern war ich jedoch am Tiefpunkt und hoffnungslos. Mein Schatz hat mir zwar Frieden und Ruhe gegeben, aber ich hab mich dennoch die ganze Nacht hin und her geworfen. Als ich dann das hier gerade las – wow – der Herr ist so großartig. Verlasse dich auf ihn, auf ihn allein. Er wird auch meine Ehe retten.
I am so grateful our Darling Lord led you here precious Anne, He is really great. And I am also grateful that He gave you peace and calmness, that only He can give.
l agree with everything you shared here and l am a testimony to what you shared because once your heart is completely HIS that is when HE will turn your ex or eh heart back to you BUT its so important in that time to stay HIS and to be HIS Bride because HE knows when your heart is not HIS. its only when we LET GO and stop trying to manipulate and become content and HE is everything we need and want to we will see HIS perfect plan for us. That’s when HE restores.
l am so glad that HE showed you these truths about the other woman that we always viewed as the enemy when in fact she is not, she is also a child of God dearly loved by HIM. l am sure that you feel such peace and joy after speaking to her and l am so thankful that he orchestrated everything 🙌🏼 and that it brought so much healing for both of you ❣️
He for sure knows precious Atarah, my journey was so very long, because He just knew where my heart was and I am so grateful He just knows the best! I did feel a peace (that was missing for so many years) precious Atarah, she didn’t deserve all my hate, but yes now He brought healing.
My dear lovely Janine, thank you for sharing. It is so easy to fall into this trap, I totally agree with you, once your former husband has remarried, stay away from him. Don’t even think you can become friends. Flee this way of thinking. I thought that maybe we could be friends, but it does not work that way. I wasted so much time thinking that if we were friends, he will see that I have changed and want to be with me, but I cannot change his heart, my Lovely Friend and Husband is the only one that can change hearts and above all, He is the only I want and need. Ladies, please instead of making your own mistakes, learn from ours, so you can be free and have the peace that surpasses ALL understanding.
When I lived this life, I never had any peace, but it has been a year since all of this happened and I cannot tell you how much my life has changed. I have peace and I can spend my time with my Heavenly Husband, my Friend and know that He is all that I will ever need. He of course used my mistakes for good, but that is just because of His grace. I do wish I was wise enough not to take this detour in my life. Of course, through my foolishness, you can see His grace! It is never too late for you dear bride, reading this, if you are in these circumstances. If you see this coming, turn around and run in the opposite direction, run into the arms of your dear Lord, let Him protect you. 💖
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Thank you for sharing precious Yvonne, I know what you are talking about, I too didn’t have peace and was carrying such a big load of sin, anger and revenge that later turned into guilt, but I am so grateful that I could give it over to Him.
I remember you always said you knew precisely when I had fallen into the trap, because then I was over emotional and of course without peace. But yes He is going to use our mistakes for the good, all because of His grace and I know our Darling Lord is going to use it so that other brides don’t make the same mistakes precious Yvonne.
Thank you for being so real. I was once following a standers ministry as well, and I know that would have led me to the broad road to destruction too. I love you He has brought you to such a wonderful place, with Him, he truly frees us!
Aaahhh precious Rasa, our Darling Lord has brought us to such a wonderful place, right beside Him, the best place ever.
I agree, Janine. It’s so important to remember that everyone’s hurting in these situations, and forgiveness and understanding are key. We gotta trust in His plan for fixing things, instead of trying to do it ourselves. 💕
Yes precious Hope, because the more I tried to fix things, there more I made a worse mess, but I am so grateful for His love and grace.