"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’" P30:20
Years ago when my husband left me for the other woman I never would have thought that I would agree with this passage in Course 2, Day 24 "Part 1: The Other Victim"...
Moving on from this vantage point, of no longer looking at the OW as evil, I’d like to take you up even higher and see things differently— understanding that the OW is a victim too.
...Because in my head I was the poor victim who was betrayed, cheated and hurt! So when I became the other woman (AV) in my ex-husband's life, on top of that, I thought I had every right to sleep with him. I later joined a Standers Ministry who told me that I was doing nothing wrong to sleep with my FORMER spouse. But I was suppose to listen to my Darling Lord and not them.
I was the other woman for years and when my Darling Lord led me to RMI, He opened my eyes for how wrong I was and that she was also a victim. That's when I asked the Lord for forgiveness and also asked Him to please help me to ask her to forgive me as well, but He had to make it happen if it was from Him, because I couldn't call her.
Out of the blue I received a call from her to ask me for a copy of her child's father's (who was also my children's father and then became my husband again) identity document. I knew it was our Beloved Lord who orchestrated the call, so I asked her for forgiveness and she said she forgives me and also knows it was a the Lord that wanted her to call me and today I can pray that our precious Beloved Lord truly blesses her (something I could never do before).
So precious woman I want to encourage you to sit with our Beloved Lord and ask Him to help you not to view the other woman as evil. And if you are divorced from your spouse, please don't start a relationship with your ex spouse either, it's devastating and if you've fallen into that trap like me, I want to ask you to please stop, it's not too late to stop. Our precious Beloved Lord will be the One to restore your marriage and not your own schemes, because they don't work!