Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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| Country: |
| United States |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| No |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| Through a prayer for restoration chat group on Facebook. |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| We have been together 27 years and 2024 will be our 25th anniversary. We are living separately but he comes to the house to do laundry and take care of some items around the house. He was staying the weekends but stopped at the beginning of November. He has turned his face from God. He says he has prayed for answers and isn't getting an answer.
He says we've grown apart, that he doesn't think he ever loved me, that I'm not his soul mate. He said he didn't want to be with anyone, that he just wanted to be alone. He has been hyper critical of everything, making huge mountains out of mole hills or even making things up that I say or do when he doesn't have something readily available to pick on. I'm constantly walking on egg shells, killing myself to try to make him happy. I just found out a couple of days ago that he has an affair partner. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| Please, Lord God, I pray you re-enter my husband's heart and lead him back to you. I pray for my marriage to be restored anew. Please provide me with the strength and emotional stability to stand strongly and fight for my marriage. Please help see the way to you through me. Please use me as needed to bring him back to you. Please work on me to become the warrior you need me to be. Please intervene in his actions with her. Please, Lord, help me keep my focus on you. |
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| Depressed. |
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Dear Bride, my heart breaks when I read about “killing myself to try to make him happy”. I’ve been there, trying “my ways” to try to save the marriage. And the result? It just got worse and it made me feel worse because I would wonder to myself, what did I do wrong? You see, there’s no one other than God who can make us happy. In other words, The forever source of joy and happiness comes from the Lord and NO ONE can fill that gap for anyone else.
I see that you have yet read the restoration book (https://encouragingbookstore.com/women-resources/wrym/). If you are looking for answers, this is the book for you. I would suggest that you start with the book and then consider moving onto journaling the free lessons (https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/) on restoration on this website.
With that said, there’s one principle that I consider the most important – not just in our marriages but also in every aspect of our lives, I myself have read it over and over again to make sure I understand the true essence of it. Again, please consider journaling so that it will stay with you and gives you the motivation to put into practice-
https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/
Dear Bride,
I am deeply sorry to hear how badly you are hurting. I too have gone through a similar situation with my EH being involved with another woman. But the good news is that there is hope through Him. This road is a narrow and hard challenge, but it is possible with Him by your side. I would first recommend reading the RYM and begin journaling Course 1 at hopeatlast.org. This is where you will begin to learn His principles and begin to change your heart. He loves you so very much and wants you to experience an abundant life. Please look to letting go of your EH in your heart and place Him first in your life. He will show you a love you’ve never known and will heal your broken heart.
”“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you. You will no longer remember the shame of your youth and the sorrows of widowhood. For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.“
Isaiah 54:4-5 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/isa.54.5.NLT
”The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.”“
Exodus 14:14 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/exo.14.14.NLT
Dear Bride, I know the situation you are facing feels very frustrating, but with the Lord, there is always hope! “Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once more.” Ps71:20-21
I know some of what you are going through. I was once in your shoes of being married but my husband living elsewhere. We have been restored 2x. The first time He said he loved me but wasn’t “in love” with me anymore and left, the second time I told him to leave. There was another woman both times. I also did not appreciate my husband and was always complaining. I was full of pain, sadness & bitterness.
Even if your husband wants your marriage to end in divorce, almost all of us have been in that situation and we too have tried to fight for our marriages, get in our husbands’ way and stop them. We need to get out of their way and let them go for a while. God can restore your marriage, even if you’re the only one pursuing restoration. Just be still and give all your concerns to the One who truly cares and wants to take your pain away.
I urge you to first read the book How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage. (Adina, do we still offer this in a free E-Book?) Here is chapter 1, https://hopeatlast.com/c1/d1-chapter-1-my-beloved/ and also a link on dealing with adultery. https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d16-dealing-with-adultery/
Ask Him to give you strength and guidance and read the Bible. God’s Word is full of comfort and hope. Read it regularly and let it speak to your heart.
My husband and I have been married 22 years and now have a restored marriage. Here is my restored testimony if you’d like to read. (names had been changed when it was posted). https://encouragingwomen.org/restored-marriage-testimony-i-became-the-worst-i-had-ever-been-as-a-wife/
He knows what you’re going through and He’s working all things together for your good.
This is an opportunity for you to grow closer to Him. It’s a chance for you to learn more about His love and faithfulness. It’s also a chance for you to start fresh and build a new life that’s centered on Him.
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