♕ Today's Promise: "For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for who hopes for what he already sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, through perseverance we wait eagerly for it.” Romans 8:24-25
Physical aggression began to occur by both parties and disrespect became more and more constant. My wife left home for a few days 2 times.
In the last fight, where we attacked each other, she left and this time, took her things. The final step was she threw her ring out on the street. I was alone and crumbled.
How did God change your situation, Arthur, as you sought Him wholeheartedly?
First, He showed me that I was a long way from the standard He set. I was stubborn, greedy, anxious, had a hard heart, did not forgive, and was not dependent on GOD.
Reading the books mainly of A Wise Man, because it taught me to behave according to the will of God. How God will restore your marriage has given me “hope against hope.” I was already thinking about abandoning my marriage restoration and looking for someone new.
But when I started to pray, God took things from the world out of my heart and brought “a peace that surpasses all understanding.”
What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Arthur, did the Lord teach you during this trial?
Prayer, Fasting, Reading the Word, Do not go after the spouse, Do not speak ill of anyone, do not keep watching the spouse's life, give your tithe.
What were the most difficult times that the Lord helped you through, Arthur?
When I was in sexual and emotional abstinence. It was very difficult to let my wife go and abandon all sexual sin, in fact, I struggled with it every day until the end of my time in the desert. And another difficulty was when I was afraid that my wife would not come back and she’d find another man.
Arthur, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?
When my wife spoke to me on her own again. I did not speak to her for a month. The first signs were the favorable things and her status she posted.
God had also clearly spoken to me in the months before, and the best thing was that I hadn't even asked Him about it. I realized that my spiritual life with the Lord was getting better every day. I spent more time praying, the hours increased and I fasted almost every day.
Tell us HOW it happened, Arthur? Did your wife just walk in the front door? Arthur, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?
When my wife posted on the status of her cell phone that she loved me and forgave me.
Would you recommend any of our resources in particular that helped you, Arthur?
Yes, all books. The book how to deal with divorce, Facing Divorce, was very good because it has some excellent testimonies. A Wise Man and the Be Encouraged videos were encouraging and were sensational.
I took Courses 1- 4 and just finished Rebuilding with Intelligence, Knowledge, Precious & Pleasant Wealth.
Would you be interested in helping encourage other women, Arthur?
YES
Either way, Arthur, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?
That they must be delivered from all fear and anxiety at the feet of the Lord and your physical and emotional needs too. Stay away from every appearance of evil, such as friends, who lead you on paths that are contrary to God’s will.
Stay away from other women because at this stage we are very vulnerable to any of them.
And search the Bible for the will of God who longs to restore your family.