RESTORED Marriage Testimony: “You Don’t Know Who You’re Dealing With!”

Klara, how did your restoration actually begin?

A complete stranger purchased the book for me after I reached out asking if anyone who would listen from a different restoration website. She sent me a link and said she purchased the book, How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage which had me floored that a complete stranger would do that. We barely spoke but I followed the what she suggested out of desperation then read through some stuff on your website. Some of the what was said logically made sense and other parts I read were biblical but to me, impossible.

Things like "Won without a word", yeah sounds great but you don't know who you're dealing with. I have to talk about my feelings, all the time and if I do try I'll combust within a couple days. But I read and I read and I prayed and in a short time, God completely changed me!

How did God change your situation Klara as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

My situation changed overnight really or at least that's what it felt like.

When I came here just two months ago, I filled out my Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire saying:

I've searched and found other Marriage Ministry sites.

I've had some Personal Counseling.

We've gone to Marriage Counseling.

I've spoken to my Pastor/priest.

I've shared my situation with my family.

I've shared my situation with friends/neighbors.

But nothing helped. We were divorced for over a year and though we talked about restoration, each time we got close to making a move, he backed off in fear and I got disappointed all over again. The cycle was hard. What I wanted was to lean on the Holy Spirit and not myself or others. I needed help and found it here. Though when I came I said I am Christian in a church, spoke in tongues and was part of women’s ministry—believing in the gifts of the Holy Spirit. I confessed that I didn't know how to navigate this journey He called me on.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Klara, did the Lord teach you during this trial?

He taught me how to transform my mind. Win the battle in my mind. Keep my thoughts and words to communion with Him only. I quit gossiping and I entered a place where I had complete certainty that God would supply all my needs. I was able to rest mentally and emotionally and knew that God will deliver, even if it was bad, ugly, dark and impossible— that He ordained it and He'd sustain me. Not only did I know I would survive through each and every difficult moment, but He would make me victorious. What else could a girl want!?

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Klara?

I found this website after my divorce was finalized and I know we wouldn't even have been divorced if I had submitted to my EH to begin with, but I was foolish and very stubborn. This website, or better, His WORD showed me how very, very wrong I was. God helped me to keep my mouth closed and endure until He did the impossible.

Klara, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?  

The turning point was when my husband turned to me in the car one afternoon, we had been together just running errands and he said, "I really like the way things are going..." I thought to myself, "okay Lord, You are about to do something."

A month before my restoration I found myself surrounded by women who I offer encouragement to. I was excited about my upcoming move (from my mother’s house) and I truly believed that this was an opportunity to have a peaceful home with just my Heavenly Husband and 3 children. I was so excited to go on this journey with my HH. I feel like I have the best Husband EVER bc it's Jesus.

Praise God for the Word - it is alive and it does sharpen us. Praise God that He saved me from myself and I don't have to live as the person I once was! Thank you, LORD. My Husband truly is a gift and I am thankful God paired us up. Amen!

Tell us HOW it happened Klara? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Klara, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

My husband gently eased back into wanting to spend time together and being there with us. I signed a lease and moved from my mother's house to a condo and he wanted to come with us as well because his lease was up as well. I had an idea that it would happen but trusted God to go ahead and commit to a lease that honestly, I could NOT afford on my own. All I knew was that my Heavenly Husband would supply no matter what.

I could tell, yes, because my gentle and quiet spirit was all my earthly husband really ever wanted. He wanted to feel respected and I was so busy searching for his love that I couldn't do what God required out of me. I was so self-consumed.

I was brought up in church. I gave my life to the Lord at least 50 times between the ages 4 and age 14. However, when I was at a church retreat at 15 yrs old I really dedicated my life to knowing and serving Him. Yet, I fell away throughout my early twenties and came back at 25.

Once I let go of my church, began to tithe to my storehouse, here, and applied to be a partner once I’d been tithing, I just wanted very much  to be obedient, make room, and allow for a new life. I didn't realize that I was "religious" until I battled letting go of my church. Coming here I've learned so much that's new while unlearning many things so embedded in me. I just wanted to keep following His still small voice and nothing else.

We were remarried by an ordained friend, in a simple ceremony at home with just our family in attendance.

Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you Klara?

How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage and A Wise Woman both softened me.

Reading Psalms and Proverbs daily kept my mind renewed. And nights I couldn't sleep the Be Encouraged eVideos soothed me. Also going through the online courses. I could see a bit of myself in each of the testimonies.

Do you have favorite Bible verses Klara that you would like to pass on to women reading your Testimonies? Promises that He gave you?

"My fellow believers, when it seems as though you are facing nothing but difficulties, see it as an invaluable opportunity to experience the greatest joy that you can! For you know that when your faith is tested it stirs up power within you to endure all things." James 1:2-3

Oh my Gosh. I learned so much just reading through the scriptures that are in correlation to how we are to be as wives and what our consequences are for being the know-it-all or shaming own husbands. Man, too many times I told people about his shortcomings and faults. I am mortified that I did that. I was upset and hurt that I alone, hurt my husband. I knew it was not the best idea but one, I didn't know how to control myself or my emotions and two, I never thought about what it was doing to him, I only thought about making myself feel better.

Reading His Word changed everything!

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women Klara?

Absolutely. I've shared this site with several women already. Two that I know of have joined so praise God for that! I share with women and people in general things I've learned on this site as well as the revelations I have received while reading the Word. I am hungry and thirsty for more time with my HH and reading the Word. I don't want to leave this place. Ever.

I am thankful to be able to encourage women, friends, married/dating/single to live out the Word. Fall in love with our Creator and Maker and know who He is through reading His Word so each may know His voice. Steer clear of false doctrine and just read your Bible!!

Either way Klara, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

I would encourage you to read the Word and allow Him to wash you and renew you. It all boils down to a relationship with Him. I argued with Him and took it to Him and went back and forth for a little while but He assured me if I let it go (all the comfort, fellowship, and support from everyone but Him) that He would replace it. I was and still am a little scared or feel as though I am making a mistake because it is so new and uncharted but I know He's got me so, I am falling into His arms. xxx

Would you pray with me? “Lord Jesus, change me. Teach me. Help me to not be contentious and not be a nagging know it all. Show me how to be a good representation of Your love. Rid me of all of the patterns I created in this life and make me new. Brand new. Take all the bad thinking and demonstrations out of my life forever. Replace it with humility, help me honor my husband fully, not just fake words but in my heart too. Teach me to bite my tongue, shut my mouth, keep opinions to myself, watch my words, watch what comes out of my mouth, agree quickly, avoid fighting arguing quarreling and teach me true respect. Amen”