As I was reading this beautiful Praise from Ruby (https://encouragingwomen.org/i-am-divorced-and-i-belong-to-him/), my Husband reminded me that yes, I too am divorced and belong to Him. Just being loved unconditionally and not having to do anything to deserve His love. He will never be unsatisfied because of who I am or disappointed in me.
It also made me think back on my own life and my childhood, yes there were amazing years when me and my brother were still young, but somewhere something went wrong, and things turned around badly, and both my parents started to look for comfort in alcohol. It was difficult years and I always felt like I had to look after myself to survive. And that is what I took into my adult life, just fighting on my own to make a living and survive, and that is the mentality I took into my marriage. Needless to say, how that turned out... I was never a feminist, I always dreamt of one day having a traditional, loving family.... but I closed my heart and hardened it to not get hurt, isn't that ironic?
"I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh." E3626
A couple of days ago a thought came to me out of nowhere, I don't know why, that now I am alone again, fighting to survive and to make a living......but instead of it getting me down, I took it to my Husband and just laid it at His feet, which I never did years ago, I became too self-sufficient and hard hearted, and He lovingly reminded me that it's a lie, I am not alone, I do not have to fight anymore to survive, as a matter of fact, I don't have to do anything except to surrender and rest in Him and love Him with all my heart, lean not on my own understanding and trust Him with everything.
I don't have to pretend to be this perfect person in order to get approval or to be loved by another person or try to make others happy who unfortunately doesn't know WHERE true joy and happiness can be found. Instead, I can just be an epistle and radiate His joy and peace for others to see, and then when asked, tell them where my joy and peace comes from.
We are not rejected or forsaken, we are His and we are loved 
and cherished unconditionally, we are NOT alone, we don't have to fight alone to survive or worry about tomorrow, we can smile at the future because it's in His hands. We just have to grab hold of this and hide in the shadow of His wings, we are the apple 
of His eye!
Adina, I must thank you again because you had just when I needed to encourage my sister. Not all of your praise she or I could relate to because thankfully we didn’t have to endure alcoholic parents. Nevertheless everything you said about taking the situation of living alone and trying to make a living is so relatable to so so so so many women today! So I hope more of the readers will grab all those paragraphs and share them along with the link to the blog so that more women can be encouraged in a way that nothing else, and no one else can comfort them – – the Lord, their husband, their maker!