Hello RRR,
Thank you very much for your answer, it really means a lot for me. I feel so hopeless and with no support in faith in the existence of my marriage.
Unfortunately, I cannot find this information. I read that in the case of divorce you advise to agree to it, but what do you advise regarding contacts between a small child and an adulteress? I can't stand the thought that my one year child will immediately have a second mother, a different family, will have spending time with other woman. This is a paralyzing vision for me.
Sorry to trouble.
Best regards,
Pat
Rather than corresponding with brokenhearted brides and mothers hidden from view and robbing you or learning to Minister and them missing out on being supported by more encouraging women, He led us to embrace this promise:
“No one lights a lamp 🪔 and then hides it or puts it under a basket 🧺. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where its light can be seen by all who enter the house, those who come may see the light.” L1133
However, if it's only me who's embracing this truth, then it's less effective. Just adding one person in agreement, pursing this enemy of fear is ten times as effective. "How could one man chase a thousand, or two put ten thousand to flight, unless their Rock had sold them, unless the LORD had given them up?" It's when the LORD delivers them into our hands.
Are we all agreed? Give this a heart if you agree this is the way.
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- Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey.
My dear Pat, I was exactly where you were last year and was paralyzed with my own thoughts that were pounding fear into my head. Whenever these thoughts surface, remind yourself of this verse “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ…” 2 Cor 10:5
My love has led me to share with you also all the wonderful testimonies that are available on the website and the 11 books of testimonies –
https://encouragingwomen.org/tag/letting-go/
https://encouragingbookstore.com/women-packets/wott-full-series-combo-packet-paperback-ebooks/
Many brides who walked through the fire WITH THE LORD have encountered similar situations and overcame fear. “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” 1 John 4:18
Lastly, I encourage you to read this lesson – https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d9-crisis-corner/ and don’t forget to journal and pour out your heart to the Lord.
Dear Pat,
Our Heavenly Beloved knows everything, has everything under control, and I can also encourage you that everything works together for the good of those He has chosen, from the beginning… When I was facing a divorce a few years ago, i was at the end of a road full of sorrow. My youngest two children where just 4 years old. My former husband included in the divorce agreement that there was a possibility that my children could call another woman mom. I thought that was terrible. I am very happy that my Beloved led me to this Ministry just before. Agreeing to everything in the divorce papers has been a painful moment for all of us as brides. However, many of us and i can say with a very happy heart that when we did this we pave the way for Him to bless us abundantly. Many OW has passed while i am on this journey with Him but till now my children never called another mother “mom”.
“If you’ll hold on to me for dear life,” says God, “I’ll get you out of any trouble. I’ll give you the best of care if you’ll only get to know and trust me. Call me and I’ll answer, be at your side in bad times; I’ll rescue you, then throw you a party. I’ll give you a long life, give you a long drink of salvation!” Psalm 91:14-16 MSG
“Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.”Psalm 62:8 NIV
I would like to encourage you with this course, which has greatly encouraged me and many other brides to enthusiastically agree. https://hopeatlast.com/c3/facing-divorce-course/ and Especially chapter 5. Our Lord your God has great plans for you and your daughter.
Much Love 🌹
Precious Pat, I know how overwhelming it may feel now, I have been there too and I tried to stop my son by not going to his dad, but that did more harm. Remember our wonderful Lord loves your child more than you can even love your child, so He will protect your child. He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection. P91:4 (https://biblehub.com/psalms/91-4.htm)
Please listen to this podcast that Adina shared on LoveAtLast (https://loveatlast.org/how-do-i-protect-my-children/). Please also read the whole chapter (https://loveatlast.org/finding-the-abundant-life/chapter-12-your-best-protection/).
Dear Pat, Since I have not gone through a situation like the one you describe, my Heavenly Husband reminded me that what you are going through was experienced by our former Spanish Minister Lota, here you can read her testimony in detail and how she went through those trials that mixed your children with the OW https://narrowroadpublishinghouse.com/rjn-lota/
“For the Lord gives [skillful and godly] wisdom; From His mouth come knowledge and understanding” P26
Precious Bride, I don’t have much to add to what all the brides already said, but He reminded me of a Praise Report I wrote many years ago and I want to share the link with you. I hope it will encourage you and give you hope.
https://encouragingwomen.org/hoped-would-not-happen-happened/
Dear bride I can relate somehow to how you may feel I too went through a very similar situation how ever what i did everytime it happened was repeat me this promise to remind me that I had GOd on my side and that if hHe allowed this situation as much as it may hurt is for a reason, a reason we dont see or understand in the pain of the moment but we know he will bring us through. be encouraged!!
Psalm 112:7-8
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7 He will not be afraid of bad news. His heart is strong because he trusts in the Lord. 8 His heart will not be shaken. He will not be afraid and will watch those lose who fight against him.