MM: Denise in the USA

Name:
Denise in the United States
I'm here:
Seeking restoration for my marriage.
What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation.
Married and my husband lives with me.
Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?"
Yes
How did you find our ministry?
I read the sample part and waiting on delivery of book. Was posted on support group.
Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship?
Married 30 years. 5 kids 2 raised my nephews. 1 is our grand daughter we help raise with teen dad. We had alot come against us on all directions. Financial, kids, strong willed son, teen pregnancy, husband, flirt , possible relationship at work. I didn't want to believe what been playing out in front of me. Disappointment set in every ware. More I asked for help more resistance I felt. I felt like we were playing out my worst fear.
We discussed with pastor his behaviors ended in reflected back at me as I done wrong. Look at my speck in eyes. I know my speck. Husband keep covering his feel pastor been fooled believe his lies too. He claim there nothing with coworker. He sit with for work lunch learns very frequent. Ride in her car for trainings, he worked on her car, took her home several times, took computer to her house tried to guilt me to stay home with his dad. We were moving our kids. I said I was going he sheepishly said he was going to her house. He knew I would be concerned. Instead of talking calmly he yelled at me said you want to be right I f her. With pastor he snapped say you never loved me anyway why not. Later he say that's what he had relationship at work he repented. He still claim only office work related all was innocent. Blam me I was jealous, it my fault I always tell him needs done , argue, puck him apart. Escalated all my fault she soo nice. His coworker mentioned they met moved quickly.
He claim I'm only one he loves. I'm one he wants to be with. She didn't mean anything to him. He wants to renew vows forget past move forward. He never admit or have heart felt sorry usually yelling/ snapping. Sat we are renewing our vows small wedding celebration. I been in many emotional levels. Hard to pretend all good. Look at him with love knowing he lust at, women, lies, possible emotional affair. He claim he hate guys do so he picked on by guys that do. I'm making big deal on nothing. All my imagination. I seen him turn and look at her she bend at a desk. I watch him stare at women. My heart hurt so I realize my fear been real. There reaction during a holiday dinner she stared at us sitting together. They turn look at each other. Seem innocent. The vib didn't set well. She poked him in the stomach say she wanted to know. State how hard his stomach was. He has a large belly. He state her get carrot cake he let know how he knew she liked.
Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him.
Lord I have felt so lost. I felt so let down disappointed by everyone around me cut deep insulting me. Using me laughing at me. Lord my heart been so big for everyone else they just reject me. I keep pouring out to them for you. I don't see you protect me. I don't see you move in my life. Protect my children. Lord you said you be my vindicator. I have waited and waited and waited praying and asking. I been growing weary. I loosing heart. I loose my temper I try fight the battle its not working. Lord i went to pastor asking for help my my words I fell apart I sounded bad I just so hurt. I need your help God. I need love returned to me when I love others. My marriage show its guarded in the heart boundaries that protect your marriage. Have I just fallen for the lies of thinking there is more when my husband loved me. I just hurt because I feel I'm not good enough. Lord our vow renewal is sat. I need your help to get thru this day. You know the pain over my dad and our lives as a child. I forgive everyone. I need you to show up and show out. If this vow renewal is what shifts everything in our lives for your glory praise holalujiah glory to God. My heart torn how I stand to a guy that all lies our love not pure and true. Try smile and look at him as a new creature. To not have hurt anger built within. How will you restore? How will you ignite our fire in our lives for each other for you? Give me a solid foundation that you will bless and not curse. Give us blessing we can live in peace and assurance he won't keep old behaviors keep hurting me.
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4 thoughts on “MM: Denise in the USA”

  1. Dear Denise, going through hard times is usually when the enemies take advantage to bring us down and I remember there was a time when I was just constantly living in pain and sorrow, not knowing how to get out of it, until I got to know the Lord intimately and trust Him to clear up any unforgiveness in me. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
    Our hope has to be in the Lord not humankind. “This is what the LORD says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the LORD.” Jeremiah 17:5 Trust Him that He is more than able to restore.
    I encourage you to read this lesson – https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d16-dealing-with-adultery/ and understand the source of adultery.

  2. My dearest precious Denise, I am so sorry for all your hurt, just remember you are more than enough to our loving Darling Lord, please take His hand and put all your focus on Him. There is everlasting love with our Darling Lord (https://loveatlast.org/), He wants to heal all your hurt and help you to forgive.
    I want to encourage you to start with our Course 1 (https://hopeatlast.com/c1/) and to start journaling whereby you pour out your heart to our Darling Lord. I know our Darling Lord will use every Chapter to talk into your heart and heal you, like He did with all of us.
    I too felt depressed going through the hurt, but our Darling Lord healed me through His Word, so I want to encourage you to meditate on His word “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” H4:12 (https://biblehub.com/hebrews/4-12.htm)

  3. Oh Dear Denise, between the lines I can sense your broken heart, and I shudder to think about it… I know what you are going through because I felt the same frustration with my husband’s adultery, just as you did not understand why if God had prayed He had not answered my prayers except one “to bring everything to light” which was when I discovered the adultery… in the midst of the heartbreaking pain I felt I cried out to God for help, I wanted so much that the pain, the shame, the rejection, the solitude left me… Instantly He guided me to this ministry and that was when I knew that the cause of everything I was experiencing was that I had left my First Love.

    “But I have this [charge] against you, that you have left your first love [you have lost the depth of love that you first had for Me]” A24 AMP

    I was sure that this was the answer to my cry, so I began to feed my soul with all the RMI courses starting with Course 1 as Jannine suggested, then I did Course 2 https://hopeatlast.com/c2 / which has so many practical principles for restoration as Gioia shared, and then I advanced to Course 3 https://hopeatlast.com/c3/ and the other courses of Abundant Life https://loveatlast.org/which was when my Beloved led me to a closer and more intimate relationship with Him. I share with you my testimony of a restored marriage that may be able to encourage you! https://elanimador.com/me-bendijo-con-su-gran-amor/

    Dear, no matter how difficult your situation looks WITH GOD EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE!! He wants to restore you and your family! Be sure to read the blog https://encouragingwomen.org/ daily so that you find encouragement in your process.

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