Settled into A New Rut

Dear Brides, do you feel you are losing your life, what you knew your life to be… The things you used to spend your time on… In my case since God has restored my marriage I have been living a wonderful life after restoration, unlike what Erin has shared or maybe many other women out there who experience restored marriages and was hit with difficulties, I did not experience major ups and downs. My husband and I have been really happy from the start.

What I mean by losing your life or what you knew your life to be— is that after I got married I kind of settled into a new rut due to there not being major upheavals, little ruts, small ruts, but ruts that would inevitably take me away from the relationship I used to have with my HH before my marriage was restored.

Watching TV, smoking… oh.. it was just half a cigarette in the evenings and the books I read that weren’t the best. I had nothing to really worry about except for finances. But I had to take a look at my life.

Because I had a love relationship with my HH I knew I was not living an Abundant Life. I knew I had to overcome the things I was spending my time on with His help so that I could experience Living the Abundant Life. So no, I did not lose my life in order to find it, but I was losing myself. I was losing the precious HH I knew. Reading this chapter will help you to extract precious from the worthless and help you to find your life.

I just read Chapter 2 “Finding Your Life” 3 or more times. And discovered. He who has found his life will lose it, and he who has lost his life for My sake will find it. —Matthew 10:39

Living as His bride I will find my life, giving up my old self with my old selfish desires I will find the best life, an abundant and satisfyingly complete life, a life that is filled with the love, comfort, peace with my Endless Love, my HH.

“‘For the mountains may be removed and the hills may shake, but My lovingkindness will not be removed from you, and My covenant of peace will not be shaken,’
says the Lord who has compassion on you.” Isaiah 54:10.

This is such a lovely scripture, no matter what happens, no matter what I do, what life brings, my HH will never take away his love from me, I am secure in His loving-kindness towards me, I am his bride and that will never change even if this world comes to an end.

“Do not tremble and do not be afraid; have I not long since announced it to you and declared it? And you are My witnesses!  Is there any God besides Me, Or is there any other Rock? I know of none.’” Isaiah 44:8

There is none like God, we can rely on Him, He is our Rock & Fortress, there is nobody like Him.

He has taught me that I can run away, I can hide, I can turn away from Him but then I always end up the loser, sometimes it even feels like I am losing my life because I had the best life with my HH when I was all alone with Him.

The reason for this is I have tasted and I have seen and experienced how good a Husband He is. Previously I thought that I was not capable of living this life because I felt I was not good enough. But He has shown me that I am worthy of being called His as He has blessed me so much and taken care of my needs.

Dying to self, spending more time just speaking to my Love I know will help me overcome anything I may be struggling with.

I have been struggling with getting my life organised, setting aside time to spend with Him. In my family, it is normal to sit in front of the TV relaxing as we eat supper or on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon watching programs on TV.

But I have realized that doing this I am wasting precious time I could be reading His word or spending time with Him. At first, I did struggle with a program I would watch every evening without fail, but I have stopped watching this particular program in the evenings after coming home from work.

I have a full-time job so finding time alone with Him is precious and I have to be organised in my daily life with all the tasks I have to do in order to spend more time with Him. Just doing the best I can to be focused on what I need to do so that I can spend more time with Him especially being more organised. Of course staying away from the TV as much as I can will help me to spend more time with Him which will make me capable of encouraging others as He encourages me in His word and blessings.

Living these principles by waking up in the morning and first greeting my HH, by telling him that He is all I want and need and that if I have him I have everything that I need.

Putting him 1st in my finances, thoughts and asking Him about tasks that I need to do. Living this with others especially the women that He has brought into my life will be by encouraging them to also have this relationship with Him, especially those women that are broken due to their marriage trials.

Dear Brides, reading this chapter, Losing Your Life, if you have lost something dear to you, this chapter will encourage you to find your new life as His Bride! It will be the best life you can live as His Bride being taken care of, loved, cherished. I speak from experience because as my HH he has blessed me with what I have needed and loved and cherished me. There was no striving or trying, He only blessed me. This chapter will help you to experience something new and wonderful, living as His bride.

Dear Brides, Are you torn, hurt, lost? Striving and trying but getting nowhere? Fighting for what you deserve? You may have lost much but you are going to receive much as you turn the pages of this book Finding your Abundant Life and find your abundant life.

~ Atarah in Namibia